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Oubliettes posted...

if so that's just even more reinforcement towards my point. if hes in his 30s and still getting grounded, hes probably pretty significantly impaired.

Your thesis earlier was that a way of handing out of control behavior is to ignore it. I have literally never seen him post anything that wasn't abusive or inflammatory. He has allegedly sent women on this site creepy, unsolicited messages and been banned before because of it. Which is more reasonable, everyone putting Duncan's endless stream of accounts on ignore over and over again, or him being permanently banned? Permanently removing him from the site makes using it safer and more pleasant, and would deny him an outlet for more toxic behavior and its reinforcement.

To be honest, your enabler stance is really starting to piss me off. It spits in the face of disabled people who do try their best to be good and need some understanding when things don't work out. The admins of this site have a responsibility to keep this site safe, Duncan's guardians (assuming he really them and needs them) have a responsibility to more closely monitor his activities online and get him more help if he needs it, and Ducan himself has a responsibility to try his best to do well with whatever cognitive and emotional abilities he has. The only responsibility that posters here have is to try and be generally OK people and follow the rules. Most of us do OK with both.

The two biggest hurdles to the broader acceptance of mentally and physically disabled people in my opinion are people that hide behind a diagnosis to excuse ridiculously toxic behavior and those who insist that everyone else needs to accept this because the person is sick. Let's extend this thinking to the case of a person who has no real choice in their behavior. If a caregiver takes a late-stage dementia person to a museum, cool! Maybe the person's behavior will be a little strange, but we live in a society, and folks will understand. But if that person becomes too disruptive, they'll be asked to leave. If the behavior becomes too extreme or there is a pattern, they'll likely be banned from the venue and the caregiver will need to find something else to occupy the person's time.

Please stop advocating for endless tolerance. There is a logical limit to what should be allowed, and one isn't lacking in compassion for setting such limits.