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Commodore posted...

Has anyone else who lost parents found it difficult to deal with the most innocent situations? Someone older than me mentions their mother and I feel some type of way. I meet someone older than my mother when she died who lives a less healthy life and I wonder why they got to be so lucky.

I'm not wishing ill will toward anyone and fully understand "thats how life works". Has anyone else felt the same?

I've felt this way about a grandparent, certainly. While I guess my grandmother lived to be a somewhat typical age, I was a bit of a late bloomer when it comes to my own life and she died before better things started happening to me. I'm sure you've heard that old saying that goes something like, do this for me "and I'll dance at your wedding". That never happened; she wasn't at my wedding, and maybe that's on me for blooming late but when I think about things like that it does make me feel a bit sad, and wondering why things didn't happen in a way where that could have been a reality. But that's a grandparent, though I'll say she was basically a second mother for me because I lived with her more than either of my parents when I was growing up and even into early adulthood.

Very sincere condolences. I hope you're holding up as best you can.