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You don't think these aren't extenuating circumstances though? TC knows of two times their partner has cheated on them. Concealed the extent of how far it went in the most recently known case, only floated therapy in response to getting caught out of fear of the relationship ending.

This seems rather clear cut. This isn't "You guys had an argument over who takes the kids to school? Dump them!" This is "Your partner has repeatedly broken your trust, concealed the extent to which they have done so, and only expressed interest in therapy after being caught".

Punished_Blinx posted...

5 words for a potential divorce with a two year old child in the mix is shallow advice yes.

Shallow doesn't mean wrong. It means it lacks depth.

Staying in a relationship so lacking in trust that, best care scenario on the husbands part, you'd emotionally cheat on your partner twice, are unwilling to even talk about work related stresses with them, and are equally unwilling to be transparent to the extent you broke their trust is not going to help the kids. It damn sure didn't help me.

And I've seen what it's done to others. I've seen people replicate their shitty parents relationship because that was their model for how a relationship works. Acting like there's uniquely downsides with divorce that somehow don't exist by staying in a toxic relationship is ridiculous. I'd have certainly rather my parent break it off much sooner instead of circling their wagon in a relationship that died a decade ago. I would be much less emotionally and mentally fucked up if they did, and they wound up divorcing them anyway. So what the fuck was even the point?