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GuessMyUserName posted...

I've been having similar developing questions on asexuality spectrum myself actually, although it's more of a question of low libido vs asexuality. But it's a staggering change over the last few years where I used to be an absolute horn dog but now I have to force myself to ever think about it.

I remember those days! Do you still have a room full of sexy anime and video game figurines or are they a bit more tame now? The one that sticks out the most in my mind is a certain princess straddling a toadstool in a very suggestive manner... On the subject of lowering libido I wonder if it's just us growing older and (slightly) more mature or if it's our bodies' way of coping with some level of asexuality

GuessMyUserName posted...

On the romance side I used to be a hopeless romantic type but now it's been about 6 years since I've had any romantic feelings and I truthfully do not mind it at all, I have no sense of loneliness and I feel perfectly comfortable continuing as I am for the foreseeable future of my life. When I see my siblings who can never last long without a partner and how being alone drives them into such deep depressions I'm baffled on the outside.

I definitely don't consider myself aromantic, but there are very few people I vibe with on a sexual level so I really don't know how to describe myself in that regard. Oh for the simple days of yore when I could just get away with "shy". And yes other people baffle me with that mentality; I, for one, rather enjoyed being alone, or maybe that was my psyches way of coping with the crippling self-esteem issues that I wouldn't want to have burdened a partner with the effort of resolving. Relationships can be complicated, and being single never once made me feel "incomplete" or whatever.

GuessMyUserName posted...

Regarding sexuality well I've always been pretty much solely focused on women, but one thing I've experienced with coming out as trans is having to confront my own shameful feelings of transphobia, and as an extension, how society has trained me to feel about male attraction as someone who grew up for many years from my birth sex. That isn't to say anything has really changed in that regard yet, I don't consider myself bi by any means, but it's not an unfathomable thought to me like it used to be.

That is a very interesting take that I had never truthfully considered being cis and all. Thank you for sharing. I wonder if, had you known and expressed your true gender identity much sooner in life if you would have been more open to experimentation in the dating field.

GuessMyUserName posted...

It's hard to describe but I know my type for what I consider a hot guy to be, and I've absolutely experienced bi panic from a stunning power couple, but from practical relationship experience I've yet to feel anything from men that I get from women.

Ha ha I completely agree, but from the exact opposite gender perspective. Though I can't honestly say that I've ever been sexually attracted to a woman I do find many women... sexually attractive. It doesn't make much sense, but that's where I'm at. Also looking back I've always- literally for as long as the idea of attraction had existed in my prepubescent brain- had a thing for androgynous people, regardless of gender. Long hair on a skinny effeminate dude, or well-toned abs on a sporty tomboy, just chef's . I dunno what it is about someone who's gender binary cannot be immediately determined just by looking at them, but something about that just captivates me completely.