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2Pacavelli posted...

Yeah this is my main dilemma. The answer for me is maybe. To be honest I wish she was in better physically shape.

Also as an adult I haven't really experienced living on my own by myself yet. I lived with my mother until 25 (my mother also passed in that year). Then I only had about a 6 month period living by myself before she moved in to live with me and even that felt kind of rushed (I moved to CT and also her mother pressured her to move out, so she moved in with me)

I think I owe it to myself and her to at least give myself some alone time before making such a life time commitment. Even though it would hurt to separate like this. Right now we really do have a happy home and we have been in a good and peaceful place in the relationship and it hasn't been like this 100% in recent times

With regards to looks and weight you need to make that decision right now. You and her generally aren't going to get hotter as you age. She could lose weight but don't make it a condition. Take her as she is or don't. If that's a reason to not marry her then that's a reason to not be in an exclusive relationship with her.

It could be really good for you two to live separately until you get married. Right now getting married doesn't change your day to day life but the abstract 5 to 10 years from now. Stay together but live separately. If you find yourself wanting her living with you then you should get married. If you find yourself wishing you could take someone else home, then it's time to break up.