LogFAQs > #974641097

gender is kinda silly. its better to figure out how you like to dress, how you like people to refer to you, what social roles you like to fill, etc.

none of those things need to 'match' each other, and the specific label you use for the group of gendered traits you have is less important. worrying about how to taxonomize yourself is kinda putting the cart before the horse.

for example, i like my body and face to look feminine and usually like femme pronouns, but i dress and act pretty androgynously and just use my default masculine-sounding voice.

i gave at some point on navel-gazing about whether im nonbinary or a woman or whatever, bc it just felt more like an unresolvable compulsion than something useful. whenever i have to answer a question like 'what is your gender identity' (usually on a survey or something), i just pick an answer other than male at random