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NatsuSama posted...

You are making the assumption for me by demanding free shit if you are asked to hang out at a restaurant.

I'm not demanding anything of you.

If I ask someone to dinner, I expect to pay. That's my choice. I'm not telling you to do the same. You're an adult, make your own decisions.

If I ask you to hang out with me, don't say yes if the only way and reason you can grace me with your presence is with free things.

You've got the whole thing arse about face. This isn't about what the invitee will do, it's about how I see the role of the person who is inviting.

I have that exact opinion to anyone expecting to be compensated because someone asked to hang out with them.

Again, it has nothing to do with their expectations, it's about how I want to go about things.

If a person deliberately offers to pay upfront for someone else's company that is certainly someone's prerogative that I'm not against. That said, I'd also call any family or friends or stranger who expects you to pay for their meal because they graced me with their presence to be ungenerous. It tells me the only way they can grace me with their presence if they can get something free out of me which says a lot where I stand to them.

Who said anything about it being the 'only way'? You have some weird and paranoid views of human relationships.

If I call my parents and say 'why don't I we go to lunch at the weekend?' Am I going to get all pass-agg and pissy if they don't pay half? Think I have to pay for their company? Worry that they wouldn't come without a free meal? Jfc, I am so glad I don't live like that.

Once again, this has nothing to do with the other person. This is about how I see things. I cannot control others, but I can decide how I want to be.

And I choose not to be petty and paranoid about this stuff, always worrying about what others are doing.

Unless the party volunteers upfront, I don't ever show up to hang out with friends and family or even strangers thinking I'm getting free things or that them asking means they have some moral obligation to pay for my shit.

For the final time, this has nothing to do with the feelings and motivations of the person who is invited. If the other person feels uncomfortable and want to pay half, that's cool with me.

I just do not expect them to.