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Payzmaykr posted...

Whats the full story here?

My dad walked out on my mom some years ago and hung us 3 kids out to dry. He blamed it on my mom and accused her and my sister of basically brainwashing/scaring my brother and I, since we are autistic and apparently impressionable, into no longer wanting to interact with him.

The four of us eventually had to cram ourselves into a low-income apartment because none of us could afford to live alone. My dad would semi-regularly try to reach me, continuing to subtly blame others and tell me that "this isn't who you are".

Eventually, he tracked me down in-person at my previous job and told me he had moved to South Carolina and that I should come live with his new wife and family. I was stunned by the whole confrontation and was like "something something I'll think about it" and then continued not speaking to him.

A few months ago, he told me my grandmother had days to live and was no longer aware of who she was. He basically said I'm not as bad as I'm pretending to be and I finally responded "That's not fair. You know I care." and then he responded back something like "Finally! I knew I could say something that would get a response out of you!" I told him my life is finally going well and that I can't do anything more than hope my grandmother wasn't suffering. I then blocked him because I couldn't take any more conversation.

Also, my grandmother always backed my dad through all the hurt he put on us, but I didn't really blame her for anything.