LogFAQs > #976830921

On a cruise right now. Spent what we would normally spend on our normal yearly international trip pre-child, and got a two-floor loft, specifically a star loft suite on Royal Caribbean.

Originally, it was myself, my wife, and our 16 month old child. I asked if my mom wants to come with us for free (since she can use the sofa-bed on the first floor and adding a 4th person to a single room didnt add much cost) and help us watch her grandchild to give us some alone time (outside of the daycare hours), and she agreed.

Its day 3 of 8 now, and she has literally never watched our child. She has mostly just been sleeping or lounging in the suite all day (while our baby is in daycare so we cant even get intimate upstairs), and if not sleeping/lounging in the suite, out and about on the ship alone (without taking, nor volunteering to take, our child). To get her out of the suite, I walked her out to our suite-only area on the pool deck, which had significantly less people than the normal area but she couldnt take the hint and said shell just stay in the suite.

She also seems to have zero interest in taking care of our child. All she does is sit, watch us take care of our child (like this morning, she just sat playing on her phone on a lounge chair in the living room and watched us do morning routine and feeding our child in the dining room, while exclaiming how cute our child is and asking when were going to go eat in the restaurant).

The only time she watches our child is when we put her to bed in the evening and then go out to do our stuff. First night, when my wife and I came back to our suite, our child was asleep in her crib and my mom was sleeping; no biggie. Last night, I got texts from her saying (literally)-
9:31- Baby crying about 30 min
9:37- Baby stopped crying
9:56- Baby crying again
10:05- Baby sleeping

After we got back to our room, I asked her what she did to console our child, and she said nothing- she was just telling me the sequence of events.

Im pretty pissed off. I got my mom whos literally not doing the one thing I asked her to do if she wanted to join us on the cruise and no intimacy time with my wife.

My wife says basically that I know my mom, and I shouldve know her to be like this, and I shouldnt be pissed off. Thoughts?

Lesson Learned though- this will be the last time I ever travel with my mom.