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Both are completely different. Men generally talk to other men about certain stuff, or bond with other men with certain stuff because they go through the same things or experience the same stuff. Both genders go through and experience life completely differently in societal aspects and economic aspects.

If you can only talk to people with similar experiences to you, you should branch out and get better at talking to people with different backgrounds and lifestyles. This is good for talking to both sexes.

Actually, they completely are. A casual friendship is easy to have. And thats using friendship in the loosest way possible in terms of being able to have a good conversation or talk about common things in the location you are at(job/event/friend group)

A casual sexual relationship is also easy to have.

Dating/relationship is different. You're not competing for friendship. You are however, competing in the dating world when there are tons of men trying to talk to the same person, and the other individual being more selective due to the plethora of options available. Said options lead to high standards. Dating sites and apps are an example of this. In which all the men are essentially competing with each other and need to essentially be the best or one of the best.

Dont rely on dating sites. Ive never had trouble with getting women and have been on a dating site for all of one month in my entire adult life.

They give you a skewed perception of how people really are.

Also, yes, you are competing for friendship. There are only so many hours in the day so while I might not tell somebody to fuck off if they dont come across as desirable enough for me, Im not going to choose to spend time with them. If you dont choose to spend time together or interact with each other, you arent friends. Youre acquaintances.

Furthermore, I'm not going to get rejected for being "short" for a friend group. Maybe made fun of, but being a friend of sam isnt the same as being in a relationship with sam. But in a relationship or dating: It's preferential and often mandatory to be a certain height. Along with having a certain level of income. Certain features(not being skinny or not being buff), having hair, etc. In other words, there are high standards for dating/relationships. Not much so for simple friendships

It is not mandatory to be a certain height. It never has been. Every shorter guy who has ever had a girlfriend, and there are plenty of them, debunks that nonsense. Yes, women can reject you for a number of different reasons, and for some of them its height. Or money or whatever. But most women wont care about all these things and even many of those that do will care about them less if you get them to like you.

Why do people continuously try to ignore that income level, or physical appearance or "types" are also factors for being rejected? Yes those you listed are factors, but so are other things. Or just people have preferences as well.

Yeah, but youre applying single rejections to an entire gender. Nobody is saying that you cant get rejected for being poor or short or whatever. But you cant blame it for being unable to get a girlfriend. Its not like you only get one shot.