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Topic	Had an engagement party over the weekend, friend who RSVPed Yes didn't come.
Romulox28 09/25/17 5:00:08 PM #35:	fenderbender321 posted... Romulox28 posted... if something big came up (family emergency etc) and he just could not make it, that's understandable, but if he was just at home chilling and forgot to go because he couldn't be bothered to put it in his calendar, why would you want to continue to pursue a friendship with this person? Because friendships are beneficial. Because you should care about your friends. Because there is nothing to lose by continuing to be his friend. Because there are different levels of friendship, too...maybe this guy is a "yeah let's chill and have BBQs sometimes, but ehhh I dunno about weddings and stuff" kind of guy, and unfortunately it costed TC a plate of dinner to learn that. Oh well, it's a sunk cost. He doesn't have to cost you anything else if you play your cards right. ehhh i thought like this when i was younger, but the older i get the more i realize the value in not wasting time on stuff like this. friendship is (obviously) a two way street, and clearly this dude is not reciprocating. what value would maintaining social connections with this guy bring? you clearly cant count on him for anything of importance and your relationship will not progress as a result. so how would maintaining contact with this guy benefit TC? obviously the friend has someone who will invite him to shit when he has nothing better to do, but TC has to be the one who absorbs the dismissal --- A Green Butter Alt http://i.imgur.com/LhwwG.gif <cite>Romulox28 posted [p:887276422] in Had an eng... [t:75812590]...</cite> <quote><cite>fenderbender321 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Romulox28 posted...</cite> <quote>if something big came up (family emergency etc) and he just could not make it, that's understandable, but if he was just at home chilling and forgot to go because he couldn't be bothered to put it in his calendar, why would you want to continue to pursue a friendship with this person?</quote> Because friendships are beneficial. Because you should care about your friends. Because there is nothing to lose by continuing to be his friend. Because there are different levels of friendship, too...maybe this guy is a "yeah let's chill and have BBQs sometimes, but ehhh I dunno about weddings and stuff" kind of guy, and unfortunately it costed TC a plate of dinner to learn that. Oh well, it's a sunk cost. He doesn't have to cost you anything else if you play your cards right.</quote> ehhh i thought like this when i was younger, but the older i get the more i realize the value in not wasting time on stuff like this. friendship is (obviously) a two way street, and clearly this dude is not reciprocating. what value would maintaining social connections with this guy bring? you clearly cant count on him for anything of importance and your relationship will not progress as a result. so how would maintaining contact with this guy benefit TC? obviously the friend has someone who will invite him to shit when he has nothing better to do, but TC has to be the one who absorbs the dismissal --- A Green Butter Alt http://i.imgur.com/LhwwG.gif</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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