LogFAQs > #888959067

So if anyone knows jack about me, I have an ex of whom the memory of is liable to plague my thoughts. I don't actually remember when we separated, sometime from '12-'14, but basically it's been years. And lately, it hasn't even been plaguing me! You know, I'd considered my sleeping issues to be mostly manageable, I can actually wake up and smile, eat semi-regularly, whatever. Gotten over her.

But late August-ish (was it? fuck my memory), Hurricane Harvey came through over Texas. Just a little hurricane, no big deal, right? I guess not, unless your ex lives there.

So, as I have no social presence anymore, she messaged my mom on Facebook to ask if we were okay. We only realized this halfway through September. And I found the fact that she thinks she should be privy to such information rather inappropriate on her part.

I don't feel like you guys are going to see this the way I see it, but when we broke up, she made it clear we couldn't talk anymore. Basically cause she wouldn't have been able to move on. And she's moved on. So?

So how am I supposed to feel about her curiosity to know whether I am dead or alive, years later, when I've basically been dead to her the whole time? I hadn't let it get to me until I guess today. So I wrote her a message elsewhere.

I'm just curious, as to why it would take a natural disaster for you to check on the wellbeing of persons you don't associate with anymore.

I just want to know why you would still care, one way or the other - when you don't stay in touch anymore. It was a little frustrating, cause, you know, I've been alive this whole time, and as far as I know, that has not been relevant to you.

But a hurricane comes through and suddenly it matters whether we died or not.

Why? Sorry, I don't know how else to look at it. I just found it unsettling.

I'm not sure I should even be asking this. Cause you've moved on, there's no place in your life I even fit into anymore, and it's not like you still want to talk to me. So wtf.

I feel like it would bother you, too.

You guys have to understand that when you excommunicate someone, I don't see any scenario where it is appropriate that you message them years later, when you know you can't/don't/won't want to talk to them, because you wouldn't be able to properly deal with the feelings that would come back up.

It's really not a big deal... I just find it very indecent... it's like hey, that was a pretty bad storm, wonder if myles died

and I'm just supposed to be like oh, thanks for checking! Hope you're doing well after not giving a shit all these years? Or what? Geez.

So, no, my username is only a wannabe's preference
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