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| Lopen 10/31/17 4:42:41 PM #92: | SeabassDebeste posted... you're catching flak because you're trivializing other people's experiences/calling them overreacting, simply because you want white people to feel more comfortable I'm not saying you should lighten up to make white people more comfortable I'm saying you should lighten up for your own sake. If you feel victimized by stuff like this, which will happen with anyone who has any sort of distinctive different feature regardless of race, just getting by in society must be a constant struggle. Basically, you can make anything about race or nationality if you really want to-- just as you can take any other question or comment defensively in any sort of way. If I were a different person, I might be upset at constantly being guessed as polish, or getting occasional questions about whether I do marijuana (because I have long hair?) or people assuming I'm some tech geek because I'm a software engineer or know how to fix their computer, or whatever else. But I just don't care-- how many social faux pas or assumptions the person you're talking to shouldn't matter as much as their tone, reactions, eye contact, etc. Those are the kind of things that should make you feel awkward or irritated. In icebreaker conversation the words just don't really matter all that much. --- No problem! This is a cute and pop genocide of love! ... Copied to Clipboard! |
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