No he is not, if he were he would have made a move on Rey when she was on the island with him
He's probably MGTOW then. He wants nothing to do with Rey because he's afraid she'll accuse him of sexual assault.
I dont know what MGTOW is but I agree with you.
Imagine he dies doing the hologram thing to distract kylo and saves the rebels just so Rey goes like he assumed my gender and showed interest in me #MeToo #FeminismAwakens #TheLastMysoginist and smears his legacy