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| Topic | So my relationship of 4 years may be coming to an end... |
| Leanaunfurled 01/17/18 11:09:36 PM #81: | @Lathissamus She doesn't need to "cave" to your point, she needs to understand where you're coming from and the huge cons vs the pros of what she wants. You said she wasn't like this until a year ago--dig into the source of it and nix it, if you can. Explain to her clearly that the finances in the relationship, marriage if it comes to that, will impact you both, and that you both need to come to a reasonable and financially sound decision. Taking out huge amounts of loans, getting a house, and having a child is neither of those. The baby alone will put an insane amount of financial and emotional stress on you both as individuals and as a pair. Not only would that then impact you as a couple but the strife and likely separation that would happen afterward would have a huge toll on your child and their upbringing. Lay all of that out, and ask her why that's worth it to her. As for your feelings, it's completely 100% normal not to feel any warm fuzzies or anything like that towards your partner during times of stress. That's a honeymoon phase thing. There will be times you'll want to put their head through a wall (sidenote: Don't :P). What truly defines how strong a couple is is how well they communicate and work through the lowest of times like those. It doesn't have to be permanent. --- ... Copied to Clipboard! |
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