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Topic	So my relationship of 4 years may be coming to an end...
KILBOTz 01/26/18 4:07:59 PM #185:	emblem boy posted... KILBOTz posted... so what happens when youre married and she issues another ultimatum only this time you walking costs you hundreds of thousands so she has all the leverage? to me the fact she gave you an ultimatum like that, that is the deal breaker there. Not the exact content of the ultimatum. but I have a no-ultimatums ultimatum. Are all ultimatums bad? I mean, it's pretty much saying "this is what I need/want, if you can't provide that, we aren't meant for each other. We all have our deal breaker to me its the expression of ultimatums. it is fine to have deal breakers but change has to come from within IMO. if its external motivation (pleasing your significant other) it doesn't last from what I've seen. saying "I can't raise a family with someone who smokes crack." that's a fair statement to me. saying "You need to stop smoking crack or I leave", that sort of communication doesn't work for me. --- http://i.imgur.com/O3syCWD.gif http://i.imgur.com/k3YiBdG.gif <cite>KILBOTz posted [p:894857729] in So my rela... [t:76212804]...</cite> <quote><cite>emblem boy posted...</cite> <quote><cite>KILBOTz posted...</cite> <quote>so what happens when youre married and she issues another ultimatum only this time you walking costs you hundreds of thousands so she has all the leverage? to me the fact she gave you an ultimatum like that, that is the deal breaker there. Not the exact content of the ultimatum. but I have a no-ultimatums ultimatum.</quote> Are all ultimatums bad? I mean, it's pretty much saying "this is what I need/want, if you can't provide that, we aren't meant for each other. We all have our deal breaker</quote> to me its the expression of ultimatums. it is fine to have deal breakers but change has to come from within IMO. if its external motivation (pleasing your significant other) it doesn't last from what I've seen. saying "I can't raise a family with someone who smokes crack." that's a fair statement to me. saying "You need to stop smoking crack or I leave", that sort of communication doesn't work for me. --- http://i.imgur.com/O3syCWD.gif http://i.imgur.com/k3YiBdG.gif</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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