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Rockies posted...

That's "old fashioned"? I don't care if people have sex whenever they want. Whatever you're trying to say about banning premarital sex is not like me at all. People can have casual hookups for all I care, I'm not against it. All I'm saying is that sex is a component that can change a relationship dynamic for better or for worse, and when you choose to have it has an effect. That being said, knowing now that RC initiated it I have more doubt that this guy meant any harm (though if he initiated it any time afterwards, knowing these things came up, that would be a little weird).

Also, I don't think a month is really that long of a time when you've first met somebody. A lot of new couples might see each other only a few times in that period. If it's somebody you're hanging out with all the time, or maybe that you knew as a friend beforehand? Yeah, I understand that a month is definitely a long time in that case.

Thinking a month is too soon? Yes.

Let's go by whatever has been the norm in media in the last couple decades. It's so done it's a trope: Third date is sex date

Go on one date a week, which is pretty reasonable when you don't know someone so well, and you're having sex within a few weeks.

Unless you really infrequently see someone. Then maybe that third date goes after a month.

And you could be looking for someone serious and still have sex in that time frame. There's really no good reason to be hung up on it when both parties are interested. What it would suggest to me if someone was surprised at sex in that timeframe is that the person is sex averse or has different values. and that may be an indicator it's not a good match for me.
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