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LockeMonster posted...

Darmik posted...

I can't speak for this guy specifically but I know in my personal circumstances that simply giving the person money doesn't solve the problem.

Because it does create responsibility. When bills are due, you can get fucked really fast. When it's your parents, you can be like whatever.

Darmik posted...

I'm also not sure how paying his rent for 6 months would have taught him any independence either. That's assuming the parents can even afford to do that.

You have to make sacrifices for your kid sometimes. His whole argument for wanting 6 months to move was so he could get a job. If they didn't want him living at home, they could have gotten him a place and set him up so he could get that job and move on.

Regardless of all of that, they didn't give him enough to leave and then got the courts involved, where he himself said they spent more money on the legal bills than just helping him.

At the end of the day, they basically left him to become homeless.

Other articles earlier had provided the rebuttal evidence you are asking for - parents had stated that despite multiple suggestions/encouragements/deadlines, he hadn't shown any evidence of trying to look for a job, let alone working one. He's lived there since for ten plus years, it seems pretty reasonable that this wasn't the first time this conversation/subject has come up.

I completely agree that some mental health problems might be present, but I *don't* see intense symptoms getting in the way of him looking for employment/ a living situation.

(Also, other articles stated he never married/divorced/lived with the mother of his child - unplanned pregnancy that she assumed primary and only caregiver role. When the court gave him visitation rights, he chose not to exercise them)