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I notice a lot of us got married and have kids, but I only really have a side view of who is in what situation. Let's keep each other updated!

Personally, after buying a house last year with my wife, she decided she didn't want to have kids ever while she was pregnant. This lead to us getting a divorce, me moving out, and buying a new, much much smaller house. Me and her are still on good terms and pretty good friends, but even the smoothest divorce is pretty darn rough.

Divorce is really an incredible thing, I spent my entire lift dreading it because of my parents splitting when I was little, but now that I'm starting to come out of the other end, there's a lot of positives. The process itself is devastating, being a divorced man is akin to being a man in a mental institute and trying to convince yourself you aren't insane. The thoughts that go through your head are almost cartoonishly villainous, and they are completely relentless. For a few months it it was like having an audio recorder strapped to my head that said things like "You don't really deserve love" "do you REALLY have a reason to stay alive" "Everything you love learns to hate you" To anyone who gets to the area, the key to overcoming is to just change the wording of these phrases to positive critiques "You need to become someone who deserves love" "You need to better yourself for the sake of everyone who has ever helped keep you alive" "You don't get to stop loving just because other people hate you" These phrases, instead of being cruel and heavy, have pushed me to improvement.

Which brings me to the positive side, I've become such a productive person because of the dark cloud of gloom constantly strangling me. If every time you leave dishes unwashed you're reminded of your failure as a partner and husband, you start to wash those dishes!! I've spent the year learning woodworking and Mandarin, and I've become fairly proficient fairly fast just because I'm using almost all my free time to meet these goals.

I decided to do try international dating, a common tactic for divorced men. I felt a little embarrassed about it at first, but I like it a lot! Technology makes it so your relationship is 90% the same whether your partner lives with you or is across the sea, plus culture and language exchange is such a great foundation to start building a relationship on. She's coming to visit next week, so I guess we'll see if she's planning on murdering me and stealing all my stuff (if she does the jokes on her, I have no stuff!)

Anyway you guys don't have to go as in depth as me, I just started typing and this turned legit real. I guess I haven't been able to collect my thoughts about the past few months until now
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