i respect the use of their preferred pronouns as long as they respect other people's rights to refuse dating them without being shamed and harassed for it
im a cis lesbian and i have actually had trans women shame me for rejecting them and then demand i change my sexual preferences to suit them
let me spell it out for you: you want to be called a duck? i will comply out of courtesy, because its not oppressive
im a cis lesbian only interested in dating cis lesbians and you get pissed that i don't want to date a trans woman? THAT is oppressive to me, NOT you, to me...
if that ain't an issue with you, we good
Every reason for my a lesbian or straight guy would have zero interest in dating a trans woman boils down to not actually considering trans women to be women.