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Topic	No excuse for anyone to not have an SO.
SpiralDrift 12/15/18 8:34:25 AM #28:	KogaSteelfang posted... SpiralDrift posted... I don't doubt that you've tried but failure is to be expected. Fail and fail again but keep trying. I would recommend staying off of Tinder. It's just going to make you feel worse. If I were you I would just focus on talking to lots of girls online without putting any expectations on it. It can still be a huge confidence booster just to be able to keep a girl's attention for a while. It may be 1 in 20 that go past the initial greeting but it's a numbers game really. Small steps can lead to big things. Tinder is the one thing that made me feel like I had hope. I actually got plenty of matches, just none led anywhere. But it at least made it seem like some women would be willing to give me a chance. No ones interested in me, they never have been. One girl from okcupid straight up told me she would never be with someone like me, after correctly guessing I was a virgin. This woman wasn't exactly what you'd call attractive either. Been shut down by others on there too. And others irl as soon as they thought I might like them. I always thought if I could just manage to attract and get a girlfriend just once, it'd prove its not impossible and would boost my confidence and self esteem. But no, it is actually impossible. I do know how you feel. I went through all of that when I was younger. I also had people telling me that I was attractive enough and they couldn't understand why I hadn't been with anyone yet. You hear those things but it doesn't mesh with how you feel so it's hard to accept. And even if you can accept it it's like it still doesn't matter. I remember being really embarrassed about being a virgin, but at a certain point I just stopped trying to sugar coat it since it didn't seem to help anyway, but to my surprise that somehow made a difference. I stopped showing any sign of shame. This is how I am, take it or leave it. Ultimately what I found was that if a girl is attracted to you it won't make any difference unless it makes a difference to you. If you're not a virgin, she'll envision you as a stud. If you are, she'll just weave some other fantasy around you with her as the star. It can even be a good thing to some. --- Bears are my spirit animal. The kings of the desert. No natural predators in water. They have fur sometimes. <cite>SpiralDrift posted [p:914160663] in No excuse ... [t:77304022]...</cite> <quote><cite>KogaSteelfang posted...</cite> <quote><cite>SpiralDrift posted...</cite> <quote>I don't doubt that you've tried but failure is to be expected. Fail and fail again but keep trying. I would recommend staying off of Tinder. It's just going to make you feel worse. If I were you I would just focus on talking to lots of girls online without putting any expectations on it. It can still be a huge confidence booster just to be able to keep a girl's attention for a while. It may be 1 in 20 that go past the initial greeting but it's a numbers game really. Small steps can lead to big things.</quote> Tinder is the one thing that made me feel like I had hope. I actually got plenty of matches, just none led anywhere. But it at least made it seem like some women would be willing to give me a chance. No ones interested in me, they never have been. One girl from okcupid straight up told me she would never be with someone like me, after correctly guessing I was a virgin. This woman wasn't exactly what you'd call attractive either. Been shut down by others on there too. And others irl as soon as they thought I might like them. I always thought if I could just manage to attract and get a girlfriend just once, it'd prove its not impossible and would boost my confidence and self esteem. But no, it is actually impossible.</quote> I do know how you feel. I went through all of that when I was younger. I also had people telling me that I was attractive enough and they couldn't understand why I hadn't been with anyone yet. You hear those things but it doesn't mesh with how you feel so it's hard to accept. And even if you can accept it it's like it still doesn't matter. I remember being really embarrassed about being a virgin, but at a certain point I just stopped trying to sugar coat it since it didn't seem to help anyway, but to my surprise that somehow made a difference. I stopped showing any sign of shame. This is how I am, take it or leave it. Ultimately what I found was that if a girl is attracted to you it won't make any difference unless it makes a difference to you. If you're not a virgin, she'll envision you as a stud. If you are, she'll just weave some other fantasy around you with her as the star. It can even be a good thing to some. --- Bears are my spirit animal. The kings of the desert. No natural predators in water. They have fur sometimes.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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