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ThyCorndog posted...

I'd rather someone beat me than cheat on me but that's only cause I'm a guy and my emotions are more fragile than my body

also this is on a 1 to 1 basis. I'm not talking about a hundred beatings vs 1 time being cheated on. I mean 1 time vs 1 time

This is a completely valid statement, but you neglected the part of getting dominated by your spouse in such a manner. You think emotions are an issue with being cheated on? Imagine what it's like with a simplistic mindset about male-female roles and you're being savaged by your wife all the time and you know it's wrong to hit a woman, while she's telling you what a worthless piece of shit you are.

That's what women who get beaten go through. To think that physical abuse is the start of it is so shortsighted. Battered wife syndrome is a thing for a reason. Physical abuse victims have their temple, their body assaulted along with their desires, their self-worth, their etc. etc. There's generally no physical abuse with cheating, but there's almost always manipulative emotional scars that accompany physical beatings.

Sorry. I've been drinking and I know you were being earnest, but you failed to recognize what accompanies physical abuse. I guess I'm using your post as a soapbox. I think abuse is reprehensible period. Cheating is generally done behind the person's back and 1 versus 100 times doesn't matter there because the fact that your spouse has been lying to you is the point. A physical beating isn't some hidden agenda that got revealed, it's that you got to worry about it not happening again and making you think you fucked up and etc. etc.

Argh.
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