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Hayame Zero posted...

it's the lack of confidence about it.

I think this is probably it.

After awhile, regardless of the reason(s), the lack of confidence and general embarrassment just creates a snowball effect. And if instead of approaching and at least trying you've been furiously fapping to God only knows what kind of porn, that can just add to the shame and distortion of what might otherwise be a healthy sexual outlook on life.

EDIT:

if I had to say for me 6 things have probably lead to me being stunted in this area

1. I naturally have a hard time bonding with people. I can tell what real affections are and they cause me to freeze if someone displays them towards me, like genuine loving affection.
2. Terrible choices in friends over the past several years. A chaotic family life. As I hit my 20s I recoiled more into bad habits and tossed the good ones away, for reasons I'll not mention to keep this short. Also after HS the social circle became more rigid and less newcomers entered
3. As time went on and I simply either failed miserably at dating and/or barely tried, it simply becomes embarrassing.
4. Porn has most certainly altered my sexual outlook in a bad way. Settling for porn vs trying to keep it simple
5. Online posting. I'd say shit posting online has hurt my relationship building abilities even more than they already were. Online posting is like a drug, it's addictive and mostly unhealthy.
6. To go along with 3, I'd say feeling like i have nothing to offer even though I know that is untrue, the general lack of effort, embarrassment, and everything else combines into some secret shame and then I don't even try.

What makes no sense is I can be ballsy in other areas of my life, not this one.
SauI_Goodman posted...

Older women generally know what they want and the games are gone.

I may not have much relationship experience but even I know this a load of shit. Seriously, any amount of time with women, sisters or otherwise, much less attempting to date them will prove that older women are just as psychotic as their younger counterparts. The psychoticness might have changed a little, but it is there nonetheless.

Don't think because the red pill comes across as misogynistic it is all together wrong when it repeats constantly "all women are like that" or that it is wrong because incels repeat it. It's pretty rare to find one that is not crazy.