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So my coworker, let's call her "L", had a complete meltdown today over something I did and I think she was being waaaay too touchy. Tell me what you think.

So L came in and tried to take my register. I told her I was already on that register (which she could see by my name being signed in on the screen). She said she didn't see me on it (because I wasn't standing in front of it on account of I was helping another coworker with something) so she was taking it. The tone I got from this was that she was just joking around, though she really was taking my register. I decided to let it go and just move to another register, but not before joking back by saying, "Ok, fiiiine, you can have my register you cretin!" before I bumped/nudged her hip with my hip, moving her slightly. Well, this triggered her, HARD. She freaked the fuck out, told me to NEVER "shove" her again, and I just laughed it off saying it was just a joke. Well, that wasn't enough for her. I went on with my business of doing whatever work stuff when a few minutes later she walked up to me with a supervisor, told me to stop what I was doing and proceeded to ream me for about 10 minutes. She went on and on about how disrespectful it was for me to shove her, that she had a bad ankle so I couldn't do anything physical to her in case she gets hurt (somehow), that I don't know boundaries, that I had no idea what she had been through that day (her car broke down), blah blah blah. She even took offense to me trying to beat her checkout time (where I work, our every transaction is timed and we get a chart every month of who's the fastest) and with how I'm number one in credit card signups. Like she's never heard of friendly competition before or she wants me to do my job worse to make her look better? She's LITERALLY taking me being good at my job as an insult to her, even though we're all told CONSTANTLY to go as fast as possible. She even started tearing up. This fucking 40 year old woman with more ink than skin at this point is getting choked up about this shit. Anyway, I tried to tell her I don't have an axe to grind against her and I meant the nudge as a joke. I even said that if she wanted to be that way then I don't appreciate the jokes she makes at me. Her response was, "I can't help being who I am. I'm just gonna keep being that way because it's my personality." So it's ok for her and not for me? What the fuck? What makes this even more fucking bonkers is that she jokes and jeers and plays around with me all the time. It's not like she's super serious all the time. One of her nicknames for me is "ass" for fuck's sake. We regularly talk about strip clubs and the wild nights we have. When her daughter came to pick her up after work the other day I even made a suggestive comment about her daughter being hot and she laughed at that! But bumping her gently is over the line? In the end, I couldn't get a fucking word in edgewise to defend myself, was forced to apologise, and got through the rest of my shift the best I could all the while she was shooting daggers at me. This isn't the first time she couldn't take a joke, either. She sure can dish it out, but she can't take it in kind. So who was right and who was wrong in this situation?

tl;dr L took my register, I bumped L in a joking way, she freaked out, started throwing a fit even though she jokes around all the time and tore me a new one for it. Who was right and who was wrong?
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