I'm her dom, and I always complained about her physical abuse and she would say "I'm trying [to stop]." But I'd take the physical abuse over the emotional abuse she's putting me through now by ignoring me and trying to replace me with someone else.
See you're saying it's abuse. So you know it's abuse in someway, eg it's wrong. You're also trying to pick one abuse of another. You're sounding like a victim who's trying to convince themself that it's okay