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Topic	Having a rough day
J03can 12/09/19 10:03:11 AM #11:	Mistere Man posted... Dont force it sadly if it is not meant to be forcing it only hurts both of you in the end. Having a child and bringing them into a forced relationship can hurt not only you but them and those they meet in the future. Divorce is very hard on children as well so please dont try to have child to try and fix thing. This is not to say you can't fix things and make a strong relationship. First figure out what made them like you for those 12 years, and then figure out what changed and what went wrong and address those issues. Many people think having a child can fix a relationship, but that isnt a childs job only the couple can truly repair a damaged relationship, and if not it is better to have not brought a child into it only to break their heart too. I am sorry if preachy or incorrect I also am having a very hard time right now, and my mind is addled. No you're right. I came off as i want to have a child to fix things - i meant that she is someone who i want to have a child with, but not anytime soon given these circumstances. I know where i went wrong, and sadly this happened about 4 years ago. Some very stressful things happened at the beginning of september - not marriage related - and i got through them, but i kind of shut down. I thought things were ok, but i would just spend all of my time playing video games and listening to podcasts. All alone, while she did her own thing. I hardly went out, and when i did, it rarely involved her. I neglected her real bad because i just thought shed always be there Also, edit, im sorry for your tough time too. Feel free to share if you want to --- Jerry, it's Frank Costanza!!! Mr Steinbrenner's here George is dead - call me back!!!! <cite>J03can posted [p:931319279] in Having a r... [t:78239591]...</cite> <quote>Mistere Man posted... </cite> <quote>Dont force it sadly if it is not meant to be forcing it only hurts both of you in the end. Having a child and bringing them into a forced relationship can hurt not only you but them and those they meet in the future. Divorce is very hard on children as well so please dont try to have child to try and fix thing. This is not to say you can't fix things and make a strong relationship. First figure out what made them like you for those 12 years, and then figure out what changed and what went wrong and address those issues. Many people think having a child can fix a relationship, but that isnt a childs job only the couple can truly repair a damaged relationship, and if not it is better to have not brought a child into it only to break their heart too. I am sorry if preachy or incorrect I also am having a very hard time right now, and my mind is addled.</quote>No you're right. I came off as i want to have a child to fix things - i meant that she is someone who i want to have a child with, but not anytime soon given these circumstances. I know where i went wrong, and sadly this happened about 4 years ago. Some very stressful things happened at the beginning of september - not marriage related - and i got through them, but i kind of shut down. I thought things were ok, but i would just spend all of my time playing video games and listening to podcasts. All alone, while she did her own thing. I hardly went out, and when i did, it rarely involved her. I neglected her real bad because i just thought shed always be there Also, edit, im sorry for your tough time too. Feel free to share if you want to --- Jerry, it's Frank Costanza!!! Mr Steinbrenner's here George is dead - call me back!!!!</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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