LogFAQs > #932174427

Duncan. Why do you do this to yourself? You can make friends IRL in many other ways. Go (if you aren't still in it) back to school, get a job and make friends with co-workers, join a meetup.com group and find similar likings with locals, and so on. Maybe even just as much as grabbing a pair of ice skates or a bowling ball, getting out there in public, and let general conversations come your way.

You might not mean any harm or to come off as creepy, but it really does for many people. You have to hold back.

And for starters, people don't generally get attracted to conversations when you talk depression. Bring up engaging topics. Music. Hobbies. Crazy happenings. Family. Work. Events you have planned coming up..... or even better, ask the other person about themselves and listen to them instead. If you just reach out to people and use them as a wall to talk about depressing issues, that pushes people to a "yikes.... well, I gotta get outta here" state of mind.

The more active you are on watching out for selfishness, the better you'd be as a friend. The moment someone tells you about their day and you say "Well, mine was worse" opposed to "How so, do you need to talk about it?" .... You just take the conversation away from them.... involuntarily.

Just, think about it from someone else's point of view. As they say, try to walk 1000 miles in someone else's shoes. If you got those messages you sent to GPG, how would you respond to them? If you were her. Seriously. Stop, think about it, and tell me. How would you respond?

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