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Zeus posted...

No, it's a consequence of the term being applied to girls much younger than the original concept entailed. Back when MILF was first a thing, people were talking about older women (but not necessarily old women) who still had it going on. She's still in her TWENTIES. Even late 30s is still pushing it a little, but even now she's substantially younger than a lot of women were when they had their first kid.

By porn standards (which is where most people encounter the term MILF), any woman past her mid 20's or so is commonly considered "older," particularly if they don't try to hide their age with copious amounts of makeup. It's obviously pretty ridiculous, but you can thank the fetishization of "barely legal teens" for that because it's meant it's common practice in porn to try to make stars of any age look 18-19.

Zeus posted...

While 18 and 19 doesn't carry the same "teen mom" connotations, 18 and 19 is still teenage years. All the same, I suppose I *could* have phrased that better.

You don't even need the kids to have been born at 18/19. A 29-year-old can easily have two school-age children even if she only started on them after graduating university (one born at 22 would be 7, one born at 24 would be 5), and that metric isn't overly relevant for anyone that takes a different approach to their careers. Yes, the average age of first childbirth has shifted later than that as more women enter professional fields instead of taking on motherhood as soon as possible, but being a mother of two at 29 isn't so much of an outlier that you need to blame teen pregnancy.

Zeus posted...

Oh, thought the article said she was 27. Either way, why would you round up other than to make it deceptive?

To point out that "she's in her 20's" is only barely true and comparable to saying that a $2.99 item costs $2. It's not so much deceptive as it is trying to correct for people's innate tendency to look primarily at the leftmost digit to form their impression of a number's value. Odds are, if she were actually 30, you wouldn't have had the same impulsive sense of objection to the idea of calling her a MILF because you'd think of her as being in her 30's, despite that being less than a year's difference (her birthday's in April).

LinkPizza posted...
but it also feel much closer due to being older.

This is also significant. For most people, the difference between 17 and 20 is going to be a lot bigger than the difference between 27 and 30, and not just because it's a greater percentage of their life. 17-20 is a period of pretty rapid change for most people: Graduating high school, living on their own, entering the work force, making significant decisions about the future... A lot of maturation happens in that time frame simply because of the life circumstances. By contrast, you can have significant life events take place between 27 and 30 (such as getting married, having a kid, settling into a career, maybe buying a house if things have been going well...), but that's significantly less universal than the life changes between 17 and 20 are.

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