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Quicksilver posted...

So do you literally have an excuse for everything it seems you can't diet and exercise because you don't see instant gratification and lack the will power you can't date because no one has ever set you up with a date and you need to lose weight to date but you can't lose the weight because you lack the will power. It seems like the only thing you are able to do is whine and complain about your situation. If you can't help yourself no one is going to be able to help you.

I don't need "instant gratification". But realistically how long after working very hard on a diet am I able to feel any pride or joy about it? Weeks? Months? More?

I think the big problem is that when I lose weight I never get the moment of "I'm proud of myself, I want to keep doing this"

It's a slog on day 1 and a slog on day 20. And I don't think people who sustain these things do so hating every moment of every day doing it.

I have good willpower when I feel like something I'm doing matters. But with my worldview and depression I just can't get myself to believe it'll matter.

What am I even fighting for? What am I even trying for? How many years of slog before I get to be happy? Before I get to look in the mirror and not hate myself?

I have good willpower, I can appreciate a challenge. But I have limited willpower one things where I think the effort is totally pointless, and for weightloss even though I know how to do it, and I see some weight come off, I never get the moment where I don't hate my body. So all the effort does feel pointless. And I don't know how to shake that mindset.

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