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GunslingerGunsl posted...

I had a girlfriend once who had expressed interest in polyamory. I don't think I would ever be happy in any open relationship. I found it weird that she had considered it though because we originally became exclusive after she realized she was jealous seeing me with another girl. That happened after when we were in a threesome together. The threesome was her idea in the first place. If she got jealous then, I find it hard to believe she could be happy in a polyamorous relationship.

Yeah, that definitely seems like a more toxic situation than mine. And don't get me wrong, I've certainly had my fair share of jealousy in the past. In this particular situation nothing's ever been proposed or talked about, I just noticed myself not getting minor pangs of jealousy at little things I may have gotten it from before, so then I really looked at those feelings and took them to their furthest extent and realized the idea of her deriving pleasure in any situation just ends up making me feel happy for her. And I realized if I applied that to other people, I know her love for me is strong enough that I wouldn't really have anything to worry about... But again, these are just personal revelations I've come to through meditation that demonstrate the level of trust I've got. We've never discussed or proposed any arrangements of the sort, and I'm not personally going to propose it currently because I don't really desire other people. Maybe in a couple decades when we're older and uglier I'll propose swinging to spice things up.