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Topic	I need an outsider's perspective and possible advice for my wife and I.
BakusaiTenketsu 03/11/21 3:55:54 PM #1:	My wife and I are a bit at odds at the moment on a situation we have found ourselves in. I'm hoping maybe someone with an outside perspective might be able to help me see something differently or provide insight that might help relieve the stress a bit. Myself, my wife, and our two children, moved from Utah 3 years ago because my wife was offered an opportunity to work for the business (the USPS) in a Headquarters position in Washington DC. It was a great opportunity, and since I am a unemployed disabled veteran and stay at home father, I had no qualms supporting her endeavor. Fast forward 3 years now. I have not been happy since leaving. We have no friends or family on the east coast, the closest is a relative in Arkansas. We live in Virginia, and I haven't really found myself loving it here at all. I keep wanting to go back to Utah where all my friends and our family is. My kids as well have mentioned that they too miss Utah and the family and friends. My wife, however, has been very happy here and she loves her job. During the pandemic, she's been teleworking her position, and there has been no official word that it could potentially be a permanent feature. Being a federal job, the mandates are rolled out a snail's pace, so the possibility of working her job from Utah is not yet a feasible option. Adding to this, we are currently living in a rental property since we were unfamiliar with the area before we moved. Our lease is coming due, but we don't really want to rent anymore. If we stay in Virginia, we need to buy a house. If we move back, we need to start looking for a house in Utah, but we can't just have my wife quit her job and us move. She loves her job, like I said. She feels a bit outnumbered with our vocal dissent on our current situation, and thinks that maybe she should give it up and move back. If we did move back, we have no idea what our job opportunities might be, if any. I don't want her to feel this way, I want her to be happy, but I too want to be happier. I'm just not sure what to do here. She loves it here. I don't. I'm struggling to find a compromise, and I suspect one of us could end up being resentful no matter how this ends. --- https://tinyurl.com/yaumw2p7 <cite>BakusaiTenketsu posted [p:951605053] in I need an ... [t:79343458]...</cite> <quote>My wife and I are a bit at odds at the moment on a situation we have found ourselves in. I'm hoping maybe someone with an outside perspective might be able to help me see something differently or provide insight that might help relieve the stress a bit. Myself, my wife, and our two children, moved from Utah 3 years ago because my wife was offered an opportunity to work for the business (the USPS) in a Headquarters position in Washington DC. It was a great opportunity, and since I am a unemployed disabled veteran and stay at home father, I had no qualms supporting her endeavor. Fast forward 3 years now. I have not been happy since leaving. We have no friends or family on the east coast, the closest is a relative in Arkansas. We live in Virginia, and I haven't really found myself loving it here at all. I keep wanting to go back to Utah where all my friends and our family is. My kids as well have mentioned that they too miss Utah and the family and friends. My wife, however, has been very happy here and she loves her job. During the pandemic, she's been teleworking her position, and there has been no official word that it could potentially be a permanent feature. Being a federal job, the mandates are rolled out a snail's pace, so the possibility of working her job from Utah is not yet a feasible option. Adding to this, we are currently living in a rental property since we were unfamiliar with the area before we moved. Our lease is coming due, but we don't really want to rent anymore. If we stay in Virginia, we need to buy a house. If we move back, we need to start looking for a house in Utah, but we can't just have my wife quit her job and us move. She loves her job, like I said. She feels a bit outnumbered with our vocal dissent on our current situation, and thinks that maybe she should give it up and move back. If we did move back, we have no idea what our job opportunities might be, if any. I don't want her to feel this way, I want her to be happy, but I too want to be happier. I'm just not sure what to do here. She loves it here. I don't. I'm struggling to find a compromise, and I suspect one of us could end up being resentful no matter how this ends. --- https://tinyurl.com/yaumw2p7</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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