LogFAQs > #951606986

What effort have you put towards being happy here? What did you imagine would happen when moving here to begin with that didn't pan out? Were you expecting to make new friends to hang out with, or were not really sure what to expect you might need to be happy here? If friends is what you were hoping for, have you been putting focus on local communities like sports leagues, hobby clubs, community groups etc. Have you been making a solid effort on that front to integrate into this place?

I think if fitting in here is just not working and you can't be happy, then its not unreasonable that you want to make a change. You can't spend the rest of your life miserable. But also, if you guys moved here with eyes open that you won't have the support network you did before and will have to start from scratch building a new social circle , then its really on you to have worked on that. If you have just been in the house depressed for 3 years about having no friends, I think that would be very frustrating for your wife, as that might feel like you haven't been trying to actually integrate and are just running out the clock until she'll say yes to moving back.

It's naturally easier for her to develope more social interaction due to meeting people through work, while being the stay at home spouse means you are going to have less mandatory reasons to leave and go meet people. That makes it on you to make that effort.

Not to assume you haven't been trying! I just don't see comment about this in your post.


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