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Topic	I need an outsider's perspective and possible advice for my wife and I.
foolm0r0n 03/13/21 10:07:20 AM #43:	BakusaiTenketsu posted... And, yeah, I've pretty much just sat around our house for the past 3 years. I'm not even sure what kind of social settings I would even enjoy going to that I wouldn't feel awkward at since I don't enjoy going out. Ok so it does seem like you're not trying at all and expect magic friendship. You could do way more to seek out social groups. I found a poker group for example. Can't do anything now during the pandemic though. Another trick is to use your wife's social group. She likes her job so clearly she has friends and acquaintances available to her. Pursue those more. But another thing is that nova is especially dry. Everyone there is in your position, moved in for work and is super depressed. Everyone is so focused on work because otherwise you feel the deep regret of living in this hellhole. Even if you do have friends, they reject your invites because of work or just plain depression. You have to plan a meetup 2 weeks in advance to have any hope of it happening. But you don't need the majority of the area to be friendly, you just need 5-10 people. That's why social groups that have regular meetups are super valuable. Those people are dedicated to doing SOMETHING and thus aren't flakey. They are in your exact position and are doing something to fix it, and are totally open to new people for that reason. There's a hella ton of military there too if you want to hang with them. DC is also really awesome if you live in it, but it totally sucks to drive in 35 min to go to a museum/restaurant/show like some tourist. So I would actually recommend living deeper in the city closer to your wife's work. Even if you don't want to talk to people, there's a lot of life and energy in the streets and various shops you can pop into for pastries and ramen and such. Biking around is great and makes it feel totally like home. Getting the zonal parking pass also makes you feel like a god who can park anywhere. (Zone 2 is best cuz you get Georgetown and all of downtown) But if you can't even bother going to some social meetups then you're screwed. Def don't drag your wife and kids down with that. --- _foolmo_ he says listen to my story this maybe are last chance <cite>foolm0r0n posted [p:951665618] in I need an ... [t:79343458]...</cite> <quote>BakusaiTenketsu posted... </cite> <quote>And, yeah, I've pretty much just sat around our house for the past 3 years. I'm not even sure what kind of social settings I would even enjoy going to that I wouldn't feel awkward at since I don't enjoy going out.</quote>Ok so it does seem like you're not trying at all and expect magic friendship. You could do way more to seek out social groups. I found a poker group for example. Can't do anything now during the pandemic though. Another trick is to use your wife's social group. She likes her job so clearly she has friends and acquaintances available to her. Pursue those more. But another thing is that nova is especially dry. Everyone there is in your position, moved in for work and is super depressed. Everyone is so focused on work because otherwise you feel the deep regret of living in this hellhole. Even if you do have friends, they reject your invites because of work or just plain depression. You have to plan a meetup 2 weeks in advance to have any hope of it happening. But you don't need the majority of the area to be friendly, you just need 5-10 people. That's why social groups that have regular meetups are super valuable. Those people are dedicated to doing SOMETHING and thus aren't flakey. They are in your exact position and are doing something to fix it, and are totally open to new people for that reason. There's a hella ton of military there too if you want to hang with them. DC is also really awesome if you live in it, but it totally sucks to drive in 35 min to go to a museum/restaurant/show like some tourist. So I would actually recommend living deeper in the city closer to your wife's work. Even if you don't want to talk to people, there's a lot of life and energy in the streets and various shops you can pop into for pastries and ramen and such. Biking around is great and makes it feel totally like home. Getting the zonal parking pass also makes you feel like a god who can park anywhere. (Zone 2 is best cuz you get Georgetown and all of downtown) But if you can't even bother going to some social meetups then you're screwed. Def don't drag your wife and kids down with that. --- _foolmo_ he says listen to my story this maybe are last chance</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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