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Well, it sounds like your Mom is a pretty psychologically abusive person. But I don't know if that means crossing the boundaries of impacting your father's life unless you are willing to help him in the ways she is. (You said he is dependent on her and suffered a stroke, so that could be heavy weight to carry.)

You should definitely talk to your Mom about her behavior in general and how it impacts your relationship with her. And if that means distancing yourself from her to let her know that her terrible behavior has consequences, perhaps it will get her to rethink her general behavior towards your Dad, maybe not. But I don't think you can control them, or really control their relationship and I'm not sure telling on her would really solve anything.

Maybe the best you could do is tell her that you know, it has really damaged your opinion of her and that on top of the verbal abuse she gives you, you just can't deal with her anymore. But you can't force her not to cheat or be a better person. All you can do is control your input of the relationship.

Sorry you are going through this. Conflicts with destructive family members are very difficult, especially if you love them.