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Topic	I found out my mom cheated on my dad with his cousin
MrMallard 05/28/21 2:33:58 PM #30:	Drpooplol posted... I largely agree with people that telling him would only bring pain. But part of me wonders if that is that my decision to make? Am i being dishonest by omission by not giving them the knowledge of the truth? One way to look at it is this: Do you want to tell him for his sake, or do you want to tell him to relieve the pressure and guilt this news puts on you? I wouldn't even judge if it was the latter, because it's a fucking lot for you to be carrying right now. Will the pain of this news outweigh the benefit of living in ignorance? I feel like I've come off as an ass in this topic, but I ask legitimately. There's no doubt that what you've learned is a big deal and I imagine it's going to be eating at you until it's addressed - which is why I agree with ClunkerSlim that the best course of action here might be to see a mental healthcare professional and bounce it off of them first. Getting it out like that can help you address it later on in a measured manner. If your dad relies on your mom for care, how much is this going to disrupt his entire life if he finds out? Honestly, I'd rather be told rather than be left in the dark while some shit's going on behind my back. I get where you're coming from. But at the same time, if I have limited mobility and I rely on a loved one to care for me... how awful and shitty is it going to be to learn about that and deal with the fallout, when I'm basically forced to be around them? That changes everything about that relationship. That hurts. And if she's his primary caregiver, that could disrupt his standard of care depending on the fallout. It's your call. But I think you should see someone, or even call a helpline or something, before you decide to tell your dad. Sound it out and process it with another human being. And take it from there, even if you march home after your session and announce that your mom's been fucking your dad's cousin. --- If I don't want to put my dick in them then it's bad character design. You can quote me on that. - Gurifisu <cite>MrMallard posted [p:954399519] in I found ou... [t:79483091]...</cite> <quote>Drpooplol posted... </cite> <quote>I largely agree with people that telling him would only bring pain. But part of me wonders if that is that my decision to make? Am i being dishonest by omission by not giving them the knowledge of the truth?</quote>One way to look at it is this: Do you want to tell him for his sake, or do you want to tell him to relieve the pressure and guilt this news puts on you? I wouldn't even judge if it was the latter, because it's a fucking lot for you to be carrying right now. Will the pain of this news outweigh the benefit of living in ignorance? I feel like I've come off as an ass in this topic, but I ask legitimately. There's no doubt that what you've learned is a big deal and I imagine it's going to be eating at you until it's addressed - which is why I agree with ClunkerSlim that the best course of action here might be to see a mental healthcare professional and bounce it off of them first. Getting it out like that can help you address it later on in a measured manner. If your dad relies on your mom for care, how much is this going to disrupt his entire life if he finds out? Honestly, I'd rather be told rather than be left in the dark while some shit's going on behind my back. I get where you're coming from. But at the same time, if I have limited mobility and I rely on a loved one to care for me... how awful and shitty is it going to be to learn about that and deal with the fallout, when I'm basically forced to be around them? That changes everything about that relationship. That hurts. And if she's his primary caregiver, that could disrupt his standard of care depending on the fallout. It's your call. But I think you should see someone, or even call a helpline or something, before you decide to tell your dad. Sound it out and process it with another human being. And take it from there, even if you march home after your session and announce that your mom's been fucking your dad's cousin. --- If I don't want to put my dick in them then it's bad character design. You can quote me on that. - Gurifisu</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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