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thanosibe posted...

Alexandra_Trent posted...

I don't think it's wrong per se for parents to have feelings of regret of having children. Raising children isn't just providing for them physically. They require care and guidance emotionally and spiritually.

To be a good parent usually means you need to lead by example. That means being the best version of yourself; striving everyday to be that person your children would look up to and aspire to be. And that's easier said that done.

To be a good parent means never giving up on your child despite his/her faults and misdeeds.

That requires constant vigilance, determination and never-ending sacrifice.

And people are just people. We all make mistakes and have doubts. And it's all okay. It's okay to feel scared of have feelings of regret or inadequacy. But what is not ok IMHO is actually giving up the child because the parents just can't cope. We need to be accountable for our choices in life; no matter how hard it is. After all, the children didn't ask to be born. No one can choose their family.

As the parent of a 13 and 10 year old boy, this post is really spot on. The only thing I can add on a personal level is, I don't ever regret having my boys; I regret being an inadequate parent is some ways. After all, as a human, your own faults don't disappear because you have children.

Yes. Absolutely. I know of this because my parents and I are quite close as we are only 20 yrs apart. I do know how insecure and scared young parents can be. They get scared and feel self doubt at times of trouble.....but because they loved us, they press on. Like you, I'm living proof of parents being just human but at the same time, seeing that their love is endless.
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