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Is the gay accent (lisp) a real thing?

Yes and it's primarily social.
To get the clearest picture why, you would have to grow up as a gay male youth.
And it's not a standard of male homosexuality.
There's gay men who actually make average straight men look girly by comparison...

There's really no biological component for the lisp. It's socialized.

Part of what conditions boys and young men into adopting masculine gender norms is pressure from society to conform in order to avoid appearing aberrant (weird, queer, "gay" in the pejorative sense, less than a man, etc). Males are commonly expected to talk deeper, tougher, avoid saying "girly" things, an emphasis on sounding masculine instead of anything associated with feminine. This is perpetuated by both fellow males, women, and family members expecting young men to behave a certain way.

However, it's not uncommon for gay males in the US to reach a state where they don't really have to keep up that anti-feminine image to function comfortably in society. The LGBT communities are well known for their lack of regard for traditional gender norms (if a woman acts masculine it's no big deal, a guy acts feminine he can still get laid, etc). It's basically a social privilege despite also being demographics that still face a degree of discrimination.


The point is naturally with so much more liberty to distance themselves from gender norms, there's going to be some gay men who sound effeminate. Because in the gay communities, less people care about sounding like a certain gender.

I guess what I mean is when a gay guy can still consistently get laid even though he's got a flamboyant lisp, he's got very little reason to change that. Straight guys, on the other hand, generally have to avoid sounding effeminate or it kills their dating success, makes them a joke among peers, and kind of gimps their assertive presence.

And let's face it: one of the primary reasons straight guys even bother to worry about sounding masculine is to remain attractive to women (who won't want jack shit to do with a man who sounds girly). Gay men don't face that hang up as much from partners.


Also some gay male youth still grow up in areas loaded with anti-gay sentiment, meaning they have a harder time finding role models they can relate to. That means they're more likely to take after a stereotypical gay dude with a lisp on TV, or even take after a woman. In these scenarios, it's ironically hate-filled society to blame for the creation of gay men with lisps...how's that for a mind fuck?
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