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I have two suggestions for you TC. Both I have read and helped me up my game on my end. However, in my case with my wife, masturbation had little if nothing to do with our success in sexual sessions.

My wife had to be comfortable and relaxed. There were/are many times that she was in the mood for sex, but would not be able to get her mind for oral stimulation. I found that easing her tension was to communicate that I enjoyed giving her oral sex and that it wasn't a chore for me. Which is the honest to god truth in my case.

Some good information on oral sex and some techniques to help a man do well in that area. The overall moral; you have to warm up a gal. You can't just down there like the Tasmanian Devil. You have to warm her up like a diesel engine on a cold winter day. These tips and techniques can help. I've read it twice over the years and it turned me from knowing nothing to doing pretty damn well if our bed sheets do say so.
https://www.amazon.com/She-Comes-First-Thinking-Pleasuring/dp/0060538260/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1507729202&sr=8-1&keywords=she+comes+first

Finger stimulation can also be a great tool to help her get more out of a sex session. After all, big, average, or an anaconda, the penis isn't as versatile as the tongue and fingers. So many times, our penis just isn't going to cut it. Using these two in foreplay as well as during vaginal penetration can give her a lot more out of sex than she has had before.

Some people have recommended sex toys and that is all up to the two of you. My wife has a few vibrators and we do use them from time to time in sex, if she is needing to release, but I just can't manage. Toys are mechanical and are going to operate more efficiently than your tongue or fingers, but are not as intimate. So there's that to consider. And to be honest, when we first did introduce toys into our sex life I felt a little like that. But the payoff is well worth, if you are really wanting to give her the same experience in sex that you are having.

The last thing, that kind of goes with what is said in She Comes First, is being willing to take the time to get her off, if possible. Communication will help you both express when and how long that is. Talk to each other, even during. She can let you know where/what/how feels better. Every woman is going to be different. (Especially with g-spot stimulation, as the g-spot can be in various places depending on each individual woman's body.) Overall communication is the key, as is with most any endevour in a relationship. Talk about it practically. Talk about when you are in bed or in session. Just try and find out what walls each of you need to scale to get to where you want so you both get an amazing experience out of your intimate encounters.

One last thing. This, so far, has also been a good read for me. I got it a few weeks back and haven't had much chance to read a whole lot, except the introductions about the contents of the book. But I feel like it will have a great wealth of knowledge if this is something that you and your lady friend want to experience together. It isn't always for all women. Or at least she might not think so if she is having a hard time experiencing orgasm now. But of what I have read it is a book both man and woman can read. Or as a couple together. The information in here can help her find the spots that give her stimulation if she wants to masturbate and find out. As well as skills for a partner, male or female to use on their partner.

https://www.amazon.com/Female-Ejaculation-G-Spot-Deborah-Sundahl-ebook/dp/B013KT9X1E/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1507728815&sr=8-2&keywords=female+ejactulation+book

I hope that you two, with any of the advice given here, can reach an intimate experience that you both will enjoy and want to experience again and again together.
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