You act as though it's even a possibility for someone as shy and mentally unstable such as myself. Not to mention I still live with my parents...
Dude. I was extremely shy, extremely mentally ill, living with a horrible abusive family that would be a red flag for anyone, morbidly obese, didn't know how to cook, didn't know how to drive, had about a million hanguos, and was afraid of sex. I still got married right out of that situation. It's ALWAYS possible. For anyone. Literally anyone.
His argument is going to be that it worked out for you because you have a vagina.