LogFAQs > #909952057

Speaking as someone who has been with the same partner for almost 20 years, I have no intention of getting married, ever.

It's a fully committed relationship in most ways, though, and neither of us really plan on breaking it off at this point, so we might as well be married functionally speaking. But the actual act of going through the whole legal bullshit rigamarole has never been all that appealing, especially with the US legal system's penchant for fucking everything up. Doubly so since we're never having kids.

It DOES require some adjustments (like, say, establishing that your partner has power of attorney since they won't have it automatically if you're not married), and you do lose out on potential tax breaks or other couple-based advantages, but if that's a sacrifice you're willing to make, I don't see it as being a huge negative.

As I've put it in the past, I may never want to leave, but if you take away my choice to leave, then I'm going to start wanting to leave. My personality being what it is, the moment I was pressured into marriage would be the start of the inevitable march towards divorce. Even if I'd otherwise spend 50+ years with the person and happily grow old and die with them.


Though to be honest, my noted disgust at how divorce is handled in the US means I probably wouldn't be inclined towards divorcing my theoretical wife as much as I would arranging for her to have an "accident", so it's probably better off for everyone that marriage is completely off the table. Which is actually something I told my girlfriend somewhere around our second date.


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