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why was i tagged in this topic lol

since i can't sleep, i'll respond, having barely skimmed the topic

this is the proper plan:

1. go there when it's slow. normally you have about 90 seconds to talk and interact and most of that is placing your order. if you go when it's dead (ie not lunch time), you can stretch that up to around 4-5 minutes of talking (and 30 sec of placing your order)...which should be plenty of time if you know what you're doing
2. gotta learn to flirt, no way around it. i'm not saying to go overboard, but the occasional flirty comment will make your intentions clear and move the convo along
3. get to know her a bit: is she new in town, is she in college, etc
4. use the previous info to seed a potential date: "oh you like coffee, have you been to this new joint every one is talking about?"
5. see her enthusiasm about checking out said place and then offer to take her there
6. take down her number in YOUR phone (see this topic as to why: https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/boards/400-current-events/77812436). Side note, be discreet about this, so her coworkers don't see
7. who cares if she says no...you have learned and can do better the next time you see a hot cashier. if anything you will feel better about yourself for being honest and going for what you want

DO NOT slip her a note. it may logically seem like a smart move....but dating isn't something that relies on "smarts". it's something that relies on emotions. asking her out while working is a bold move and we live in a world that favors the bold. read through the previously linked to topic also about how you DONT want to put the onus on the girl to make the first move...because it means she very likely will not make the move, even if she likes you. giving a girl a note comes off as a WUSS move unfortunately, doesn't matter if it's "smart"

asking someone out while they are at work is NOT wrong. just use your common sense and make sure it's appropriate, ie avoid doing it in front of her coworkers or when she's extremely busy. girls like guys who are not afraid to go for what they want and will rarely punish you for it as long as you're not being weird or overly intrusive about it. i once asked out an on duty police officer making her rounds. we talked for a few minutes and ultimately it didn't go anywhere as she had a girlfriend. but it was a good convo and she didn't mind at all. once she had to continue her rounds i let her go and that was the end of it...no big deal

it's only as big of a deal as you make it. if she says no, if you go in there act awkward next time it will become a big deal. if you just go in with confidence, talk to her normally and act like it's not a big deal...she will also. girls get asked out and say no all the time, they are used to it. in fact, if she sees how cool you are about it...she may actually change her mind later.
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