There is a time and a place for that discussion, and I don't think anyone here is even disagreeing with that. It's not right after he dies. That's just my opinion.
I guess I'll expound on why I strongly disagree with this, even though I do see where you're coming from.
If the discussion's not had now, it's never going to be had. It's always either the "wrong time" or of so little salience that nobody cares to have it.
More importantly, if you're someone who has been affected by sexual violence (and this won't be true for all such people; I'm sure some of them agree with you), what you're seeing in 95% of the reactions to Kobe's death are messages that he was this fantastic guy. The fact that he had, in his own admission, a non consensual encounter is not even mentioned, despite, as you point out, being something that "everybody is aware of." That sends the message, intentionally or not, that rape is so inconsequential that it can be washed away by somebody's other accomplishments or, yes, good that they subsequently did in their life. I know yesterday was emotionally challenging for a lot of Kobe's fans, but they're not the only people being affected by the news.
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