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OK I had the same issue with a roommate!
From what youre saying, and youre going to know your cousin better than I do but if hes potentially that mentally disabled he may be suffering from something like being on the autism spectrum which can inhibit peoples abilities to fully understand social cues and what is socially acceptable and whats not(if something like that is the case it is legitimately not his fault and he needs the help of someone trying to deal with issues of that nature). If you think that may legitimately be the case, if your parents have authority like as guardians (heck they have some authority by providing him a home to live in) they need to insist that he see a professional of some kind to determine if this is his issue and maybe help him with it.

**** I do not directly recommend or instruct anyone to take the very same action that I did you have to judge based on your own individual circumstances, Im just sharing my experience***

If you dont think its anything that serious where he doesnt understand that this is just not acceptable. Then get some rubber gloves in a Ziploc bag and your mom your dad yourself whoever is comfortable talking to him just sit him down and confront him with the evidence. Just put it right in his face and explain to him that you dont want to handle his disgusting unmentionables any more than he would want someone leaving similar things in his bed. (if you really wanna pack a good punch, if possible get a hold of the girlfriend or wait till shes over there and drag this out in front of her). Embarrass the you know what out of both of them at the same time. Trust me as a female if she has even the slightest bit of a normal female mind she should feel some shame over this . If all else fails when I finally did my roommate was waited until I had a considerable size bag and I took half of them (with rubber gloves). I mixed half into his clean laundry putting them in a drawer of clean clothes that he reaches into regularly will serve a similar effect just stick them down in there where he cant see em right away. and eventually I made my roommate one of his favorite bowls of ice cream and I mix the ice cream up to where it was a little blended and well lets just say I think you can guess the special sprinkles I put in that. They were all His, so I was basically just returning his belongings that he was leaving in our public area of the house. I never had to pick up another dirty you know what after that.

Now sitting down and talking this out is obviously the best way to proceed, at least give him a chance to make it right but if he doesnt you got some good ideas on here there aint nothing wrong with loading his pillowcases with em. Or planting them all over his sock drawer. What hes doing is just Nasty, Unhygienic, Unnecessary, and most of all not proper to be doing where a child may be present, and a childs health and welfare always come before an adults preferences!!