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BrandySky posted...

OK I had the same issue with a roommate!
From what youre saying, and youre going to know your cousin better than I do but if hes potentially that mentally disabled he may be suffering from something like being on the autism spectrum which can inhibit peoples abilities to fully understand social cues and what is socially acceptable and whats not(if something like that is the case it is legitimately not his fault and he needs the help of someone trying to deal with issues of that nature). If you think that may legitimately be the case, if your parents have authority like as guardians (heck they have some authority by providing him a home to live in) they need to insist that he see a professional of some kind to determine if this is his issue and maybe help him with it.

I do believe this is the case. He's always been extremely slow, doesn't seem to be able to comprehend a lot of things. We took him to a doctor when he was younger to check his faculties, and they just said that they didn't think he had autism and sent us away with that.

It's almost as if he simply doesn't understand others exist. That he can just do as he wants and that's all there is. He seemingly has no concept that anything he does affects anyone else, because to him, no one else really factors in.

Some examples of his limitations. When he was trying to get a job, they asked for a photo id. So he brought them a picture of himself. He claims that he graduated college when he barely managed high school in special classes. He doesn't know the difference between high school and college and thinks he did.

The younger relative staying with us now is his nephew. He doesn't have understand the relationship to the kid. Sometimes he refers to him as his grandson, or uncle. Because he doesn't understand what a grandfather, father, son, grandson, and nephew are to each other. He just seems to grab one of those on the fly to refer to how they're related, because him being an uncle and the kid the nephew is too complicated for him. His understanding is that limited.

I mean, he's honestly doing well for himself. Actually got the job and has kept it. Drives himself there and back, and that was by far my biggest concern. Has found a gf and is looking to move in with her... Just, he's very problematic. It's extremely difficult to deal with him, and dad makes things so much worse.

He hasn't been home since we found the second one, but he's coming home tomorrow night. Mom had previously been adamant about talking to him about it, so we'll see how that goes tomorrow I guess.