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ZayKayWill posted...

Not gonna lie this topic makes me feel a lot better about my situation. I both worked for my dad for 7 years and sadly still live with both him and my mom. As much as I hate to say it I've slowly grown to hate him over the years and every day I await the day he dies or for just an opportunity where I never have to associate with him again.

I've been unemployed for a while and sadly have had to rely on them during said time, but luckily I just recently got a new job that's paying me pretty good, so maybe in the next few months I'll start looking into new housing. I dunno. But yeah. My brother literally stopped talking to him for 2 years and just recently started talking to him again after our uncle (his brother) died. My mom can't stand him either. Only stays with him literally because she knows that he'll take half her money. One big reason why I don't plan on marrying anytime soon....

He's not the worst father in the world, but he's not a good person at all really. Me and my brother recently talked and we both agreed that we are not going to speak for him when his funeral comes.

One thing I will say about that is that you may find yourself changing your mind when you move out. I had quite a few issues with my mom when I was living with her, and while those aren't gone, per se, the fact that I only have to consider them as a detached third party instead of living with them every day is a lot better for both my mental health and my ability to try to understand where she's coming from (mostly the consequences of her mother abusing her) and work within that framework so we can both be happier. Sometimes, people are really unpleasant to live with (and in your case, if you also worked for him, that's even more exposure and you wouldn't have been able to take advantage of the primary means by which people get a break from problematic cohabitants), but can be fine or even enjoyable in small doses.

Of course, it's also possible that some distance will change absolutely nothing and you'll just be glad to be away. Your mileage may vary. Just try to keep in mind the role that being frustrated by immediate exposure is playing in how you feel overall.