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Noname13 posted...

TC, Ill be straight up real with you. People here guiding you wrong. Youre way too short and cordial.

Every time you talk.

Its like this.

Like youre Amazon support.

loosen up a bit. And youre jumping the gun. Shes like work sucks and you just go So coffee Wednesday?. You put an immediate serious pressure in your responses.

It should go like this.

work sucks

Then you say, oh that sucks/wild, what happened? Yeah work sucked today for me too. Let her talk to you to for a bit. Eventually just say it out after a couple hours. Since Works been rough this week, you down for some coffee later?

You sound so rigid

Honestly, this.

TC, youre focused on the goal get her in person and only going for that.

You did good with suggesting something close for her. But you havent built off of anything she says. She said she was cold and that was a chance for you to reply with character or relate in some way.

I dont think asking her what she means with her last text was great either. It has no beneficial lead. It just resets the conversation to her potentially explaining what she already said. She was trying to express how reticent you are so that you could either explain or somewhat give her assurance you wouldnt be the same in person. Your question just kinda reinforces her worry.

I think youre maybe overthinking and its causing you to tunnel vision.