Current Events > So I asked out the woman I've been mad crushing on.

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Hairistotle posted...

pres_madagascar posted...

I'm 31 and she's 24

Yikes

What's wrong with that?
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kg88222 posted...

It won't last. I dated a 31 year old when I was 24 and a 24 year old when I was 31. At 24 a lot of people are still just not ready for a lasting relationship. Especially when there is an age difference like that. I actually was at 31, she wasn't. At 24 she was at 31 and I wasn't. Both ended with the older person being upset. It seemed so good at first too.

31 is seriously that age where you are looking for something serious and if it works out great, but when it doesn't work suddenly you are old.

This is actually interesting.

Say you're 30 and get into a relationship with a 24 year old, and say it lasts about five years. Suddenly you've lost 5 years of the part of your life where you could be getting married to someone, and they don't really lose out because they only just go to that age. Not saying these relationships should be avoided, but I never really looked at it that way.
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kg88222 posted...

It won't last. I dated a 31 year old when I was 24 and a 24 year old when I was 31. At 24 a lot of people are still just not ready for a lasting relationship. Especially when there is an age difference like that. I actually was at 31, she wasn't. At 24 she was at 31 and I wasn't. Both ended with the older person being upset. It seemed so good at first too.

31 is seriously that age where you are looking for something serious and if it works out great, but when it doesn't work suddenly you are old.

Except I have no pretenses about anything, and she's already mentioned wanting to settle down in her life lol
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MedeaLysistrata posted...

kg88222 posted...

It won't last. I dated a 31 year old when I was 24 and a 24 year old when I was 31. At 24 a lot of people are still just not ready for a lasting relationship. Especially when there is an age difference like that. I actually was at 31, she wasn't. At 24 she was at 31 and I wasn't. Both ended with the older person being upset. It seemed so good at first too.

31 is seriously that age where you are looking for something serious and if it works out great, but when it doesn't work suddenly you are old.

This is actually interesting.

Say you're 30 and get into a relationship with a 24 year old, and say it lasts about five years. Suddenly you've lost 5 years of the part of your life where you could be getting married to someone, and they don't really lose out because they only just go to that age. Not saying these relationships should be avoided, but I never really looked at it that way.

I'm not inherently looking for marriage right now myself.
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At 31 I wasn't either that's what I'm saying, but once your clock starts ticking kids and wanting to build a family. 31 is a weird age that way. You don't start realizng these things until later and there are differences.

They don't get it either. It's no big deal to them. Not just that but there are differences is all. But it can work. I'm not saying it can't. She appeared to want the same things at first. She ended up being really immature and insensitive.

It really depends on the person. I could date a totally different person at 25 who would want those things and has more integrity than that and it would work.

I was a different person at 31 than I am now though I know that. Same person basically but going through that will make you realize things.

She ended up ditching me married some other guy got divorced was immature.. Got married at 32 is basically doing what I was trying to tell her now. She doesn't know that.

Just keep a level head. I would find someone more your age but that's just me. When I was 24 I dated a 31 year old. It felt like she was crushing on me Be careful with that stuff.

I was at 31 that's the thing. She just was not as ready for that as she seemed at first.

It's not as simple as I can explain it either. I was in my thirties and mature and sensitive to that too and was like you where it's like i'm not even doing that and no issues but people are sometimes just totally incapable of things on the same mature level. It's not as cut and dry as it seems.

Even when I post here I know I'm talking to people younger than me sometimes. That just don't get what i say. They don't have the same experiences whatever it is.

http://www.babynames.com/
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The thing is, her and I have the same basic level of maturity. It's funny.
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Go with it dude. Let it happen lol. I don't want to deny you. Both relationships were great. They just didn't last.

The 2nd one I got hurt way more than I should have. Just be careful if it gets to that point how much you get hurt. That's all i will say. As far as everything else just go with it.

Only regret I have is instead of letting myself get totally hurt, I should have found someone else. I wasn't as cruel to the girl i dated who was 31 that this girl was to me. I let her get closure and she moved on and got married in her mid thirties. The younger girl was messed up what she did. I got way hurt how it happened because she took off had no clue what happened to her if she was ok for the longest time etc. Still loved her. When i had other opportunities myself but I was still in love with her.

At this point i don't regret much though. So there's that lol. I just don't care. Which has it's pluses.

SuperShake666 posted...

http://www.babynames.com/

haven't seen this in a while
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I think the rule is dick pic by 3rd date unless sex happened right? Been out of the game for a while now.