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gmom really fucked this up for everybody

she insisted that gdad get gbro's apartment keys so he can't go in to the place he's legally not allowed to go into, saying that she can go in and get his stuff

days go by she doesn't go in so finally now she does but that same day is now gbro pulling this stunt of trying to go in himself to get, we're also on the line with gmom who hears nobody knows where gbro is so she just skidaddles out of there

but now gbro arrived, realized he doesn't have his keys, and has been text & phoning threats to gdad to bring him his keys, calling him every name in the book, rat, thief, you're dead to me, give me the keys or i'm leaving the country and you're out $5000

all could've been avoided if gmom didn't insist on this sneaky behind the back shit, she could've just said she'd go in and get it but she wants to control that he can't go in and break his bail (nice job that did now that he's threatening to do exactly that). if gbro wants to break his bail and go back to prison our parents just need to accept to LET HIM. LET HIM FUCK HIMSELF UP. you can't stop that without putting the whole family in danger!

ugh, on the phone with gmom and she's trying to high tail out of it there saying she'll go in tomorrow meanwhile gbro's demanding gdad drive in now or he's making us suffer. I told her how completely unfair it is for her to protect herself from a situation she created and letting the rest of us take the brunt of it. she relented that okay she'll talk to gbro about it but I really don't know what to expect because definitely wants to protect herself (tho she does have her partner with her)

I mentioned if they meet up to PLEASE get me my switch but I really don't know what to expect now that gbro's in his manic vengeance mode

sigh, another update

so when gmom did get in earlier today, before she skedaddled, she did get to see the state of gbro's toronto apartment and it's completely destroyed. windows, appliances, all beaten in, holes in the walls, drugs all over the place, meth, whatever

with gmom's thinking at the time she assumed best to clean up the place. logically, sure, all of that shit could get in incredible amounts of trouble with the police and even his damn ass landlord.

knowing gbro however, logic is always last place. this is just another ticking timebomb when gbro gets into the apartment and discovers the place cleaned and his drugs gone. and if somebody's there with him they're gonna be facing his violent reaction to that discovery. which both gmom and gdad still insist gbro can't go in (which obviously gbro wouldn't accept because of the aforementioned tornado drug den condition it's in, he would want to do it solo or with one of his fellow shitlord friends)

while trying to type this there's been a number of updates it's all kind of a blur but tldr gmom tried to organize with gbro, gbro threatened her with murder, gmom turned off her phone, gbro demands gdad organize with gmom through gmompartner's phone # but the lines are getting busy here as we're all trying to communicate to each other what's going on

final status now gmom's phone back on but nobody's hearing from gbro and his last message was a goodbye then to gdad.

Every part of that sounds concerning.

if you wanna know how you raise a child to be this way - gdad's already back to stockholm syndrome mode taking every single bit of blame off of gbro and going on about how HE'S the victim here and he hopes he doesn't go to jail

Ugh that all sounds like a mess.

I don't know if you are getting your switch back.

after a while gbro texted dad to be able to pick him up - as mentioned, gdad's completely absolved gbro, so really he's focused in his vengeance to gmom who's responded to gbro's threats by asserting she'll call the cops on him

soooo bright side I think there's still a shot at getting my switch back tonight

downside gbro's gonna be back here and his dangerous threat level has skyrocketed

also of course like I was just telling gsis - this isn't even a closed chapter yet. gbro still needs his stuff, he's gonna demand his keys first thing tomorrow. I predict that gdad's gonna take him in tomorrow with the keys, gbro's gonna see his apartment's been cleaned and explode again and that's where my ability to hypothesize ends up. in gdad's favour it might be that gbro can perceive that gdad is a complete and utter doormat so he should know that he's his only lifeline now.... but I mean something's gotta happen

and also like I was telling gsis even once this chapter closes there's still gonna be 50 more after it

he's back

and he broke my left joycon which is a special edition splatoon oled switch joycon

rage

Stay safe, gfam

waking up after 4 hiurs because gbros blasting music

heard gdad trying to plead to him that gdad needs to sleep but gbro just screeched at him like a ghoul

honestly terrified to unlock my door

I only had 4 hours but for different insomniac reasons

okay 11am gbro has a court scheduled so i got use this opportunity to open my door and check on gdad to confirm that he is indeed alive still

this shit is really harrowing, I dont want to leave gdad alone with this but I'm very well considering the basic fact that I cannot live in this environment and I may just go to gmoms and take my computer & switch. I know that I can handle it better than gdad which is why I stick around, but even I cant stay in this

being trapped afraid for your life in your own home is just a beyond horrifying experience. I'm literally a hostage here and I'm not safe to do anything

escaping sounds like a good idea if that's an option, although that's easy for me to say

It sounds like you begged and pleaded for Gdad not to put up bail and force you into this situation. It's not your fault and you shouldn't have to live with the consequences. You would be totally in the right to get out.

sigh, unfortunately either decision isnt exactly safe

the way things are right now, gmom and her partner are a couple of the strongest targets of his violent fantasies rn because they had the "audacity" to say they'll call the police if he keeps threatening to murder them

so yeah its not completely safe there, he understands theres no threat here because we've submit, but gmoms he wants to destroy. me leaving would also further me on the list of "traitors" he claims and with all the possessions of my life here he could very well take his anger out on - see: my description of how he destroyed his own apartment

talking to gsis relaying everything and it sounds like gmoms gonna talk to the family psychologist tomorrow to figure out wtf to do, but I dont really have any hopes of it doing anything because a) gmom is still hiding the full truth of gbro's behaviiur from the psychologist and b) she feels personal safety at her apartment away from this - although admittedly hes been sending her violent threats through a text app today as she has his cell blocked

anyways right now 11pm and gbros blasting his stupid ass fucking music with no consideration of gdad being able to sleep, or the trouble we could get into from apartment neighbors. who knows maybe the solution is us getting evicted so theres no place left to house gbro.

me and gsis are completely on the same page that gbro is stuck in a violent cycle where he chooses to spite any rules from applying to him. he literally has a criminal harassment charge and instead of toning it down he just becomes more violent and does more harassment. now he's doing that to gmom, gmom tries appeal to the law but again that just makes him angrier and more violent. rught now hes blasting his music and me and gdad are fully aware that if we so much as request he turn it down please he would just scream and turn it up more

there is no outcome except for a longterm prison sentence, after which quite frankly the family would need to relocate so he could never track us down or else he would very well plot out a revenge on us for his actions

I think I'm pretty decided though that if gbro isnt out of here tomorrow I absolutely cannot stay. this isnt a livable environment, Ive had a stress headache all day and night times and morning are completely fucking disrupted with this shit

HE LITERALLY DOES NOT EVEN SLEEP its just 24 hour terror with him

*edit* tried talking to gdad abiut it and yeah hes just in purely defeated denial, one second agreeing with me that this is a problem but then downplaying it when I say this isnt a livable situation. suggested i go to gmoms if I dont like it, to which I say yeah Im gonna have to if this keeps up. only for gdad to then mock me running off to gmoms and her partner. context: gdad has ALWAYS done this jealous baby shit trying to say we love gmoms partner as a better father when the reality is no we've always had a bad relationship with him too, since hes always tried to drive a wedge between us and our mom, including the biggest financial mistake in our lives, selling our house because he didnt want enough space to potentially accommodate us

based on what you're telling us, gdad will tell him your locations :/

reminds me of those stories where parents have a child and the child wont behave themselves no matter what and trashes the place and smears feces on the wall and threatens violence and the child is 10 except now the child is 37

sorry lyn

but yes, please get out of there. There is only so much you can do to help a person who wont listen and is in denial

at least the music stopped now

please for the love of god let the rest of this night and morning pass by without more of this shit. surely he has to sleep at SOME point ffs

I've been out of the country for 10 days and wasn't able to log into gamefaqs.
Seems like I missed a lot.

If your parents are going to keep enabling your psychotic brother, it might be time to start thinking about cutting them out of your life as well. When you get into the territory of hard drug use and death threats, it's time to start getting serious.

Yeah, I don't know how viable or appealing it is but I'd LOVE to see you just....get out of there entirely.

please stay safe <3

the main part thats underlining my absolute need to get out is that gdad is in an absolutely total delusion right now over gbro, grasping at other people to blame so he can avoid the real problem he's fully surrendered to. gdad will sit through whatever hell gbro drags him through and I can't stay for it.

for fucks sake gdads still living in a happy family fantasy that i just need to come out and watch tv with them and all will be good - gdad doesnt like me protecting my own safety in my room, and after the one time I tried last week (which ended in him truly tuning out the last few hours focusing on his phone, then when I left switching over to garbage ant-trans youtubes) gdad just keeps saying "wasnt that such a nice time?? we should do that again."

another fight exploding between gdad and gbro

gdad mostly just breaking past his limit but its a whole lot of fantastical nonsense

worth mentioning tho because of the hilarity of gbro threatening to call the police on gmom & gmoms partner lol

like dude they can easily charge you for violent criminal harassment with all the deacriptive death threats hes been sending

settling down and probably back to the point gdad reverts back to forgetting everything happened again

dammit my phone opened up a link and I lost everything i typed

but im at gmoms

had a lot of abuse hurled at me from gdad but whatever I gave up

Good for you.

CelesMyUserName posted...

worth mentioning tho because of the hilarity of gbro threatening to call the police on gmom & gmoms partner lol

"My mom won't give me the keys to the apartment I don't own and where I am legally not allowed to live! I need to get in to get my drugs!"

Get some sleep!

It just seems so dumb to give shit at the child not causing prison problems

<3 <3 <3

GTM posted...

It just seems so dumb to give shit at the child not causing prison problems

the truth of it is that gdad believes me to be the Gbro Whisperer - that if I permanently stay in the living room, putting on tv and playing video games with gbro that all the problems will stop and everything will be perfect

me leaving essentially means gdad is completely alone in a hell he cant manage without me

but thats not my fault. I've stuck around through some horrible shit *with me there* and I cant keep it up . and if gdad can't understand that, it shows how little consideration he affords me meanwhile repeatedly going to bat making every excuse in the book for his behaviour - downplaying, or outright denying it - and well... fuck, even more reason for me to gtfo for my own safety because my dad cant protect me from harm he refuses to see

posting from my pc at gmoms

okay what can i catch-up... let's start from last night recap: gbro was blasting music from 11 to midnight during which I kept going between my room and gdad's room because I'm honestly concerned for him, I already know he struggles to sleep and this is just pure hell with it especially blasting in the spare room where gdad stays. eventually it gets to the point gdad says if I don't like it I can go to gmom's - and I say yeah it's kind of hitting that point for me that I cannot take this situation and I may have to

next day dialogues with gsis, he's mad and blaming her for "convincing" me to go to my moms as if it's not y'know, the entire mess ass situation that I don't feel safe and am too afraid to even move in. more dialogue now with gmom who's meeting up with gdad and planning out a way for me to safely get out and move my things which gdad isn't happy with. comes home screaming about all the stress he's under, gbro then says he's going to toronto again to get his wallet, gdad is panicked again and begs him not to break his 11pm curfew and cost gdad $5000 - which gbro interprets as a threat and queue massive screaming match I mentioned above, but actually including some shocking truths from gdad about all of gbro's problems are entirely self-inflicted, which gbro screamingly denies. gets to the point where gdad's even yelling at him to get out which is amazing but as the fight continues he backs down to mediating mode just trying to stop the fight and that's when you can tell gdad's resetting his delusion back to "that didn't happen" mode.

gdad takes gbro to train station at which point gmom encourages me to take this opportunity and leave but I say no I need to at least talk to dad and communicate my need to leave... but he comes back already primed with anger and starts the conversation off blaming everything on gmom and gmom's partner for being evil in not supporting gbro and I just have to sit through this ranting for a while. I ask him to let me speak where I try to explain that this isn't a living environment I can handle but he just keeps interrupting me. I get him to focus on my words for one second as I try to explain that I desperately do not WANT to leave but I just don't feel saf- oh he just cuts me off again sarcastically telling me to just go then except he's clearly gaslighting me because he's not fine with it at all. as he rambles into how he wants to sell the place and move to italy.

at this point I give up. he isn't listening to what I want to communicate, he doesn't WANT to hear what I have to say, literally to the point where he's actually doing the cliche'd childish "LALALA I DON'T WANNA HEAR IT" shit which always feels really good when you're trying to pour your heart out. so whatever that's it all I can do is finish packing and go as he keeps interjecting every few minutes to berate me and gmom and gmompartner and say how he's done with everyone. I literally scream begging him to quit the abuse, quote, that the's breaking my very soul as he continues these ramblings but he just won't stop until his comments get to saying he should leave right now and I just agree - please do, goodbye.

so yeah that's definitely the emotional low point for me this week. I'm very good at understanding my dad's unreasonable behaviour which helps me deal with it, but it's not an excuse for his behaviour. I fully understand that yeah there's a whole massive heap of shit he's under with gbro - and while it is also self-inflicted because of the way he insists on protecting gbro who's clearly beyond off the deep end, that emotional turmoil is still going to have gdad on the complete edge of his rope. I get that, 100%, but also the fact that it's still incredibly abusive to me and I don't deserve that.

I also understand that a lot of the shit he says about leaving us all is a complete load of bullshit. like I've mentioned with the way gdad always resets back into denial accepting whatever heinous shit gbro does, I know that it does also apply to the rest of us. he does have these horrible outbursts when he's overwhelmed, that he eventually cools off from and does turn back on. in the moment gdad is impossible to stop ranting no matter how much you plead, unless he's faced with someone like gbro who is the exact same except without any limit.. unlike gbro however, these things always eat at him for the next few hours or days and he does have a history of reflecting and apologizing... that's something gbro is absolutely not capable of ever doing.

on the plus side gdad is trying to book an appointment with our psychologist which is something he's resisted doing for years, but after his recent experience last week he actually enjoyed it and now he's taking it seriously. I do hope that works out for him and he doesn't turn dismissive when the psychologist points out his own failings in these situations.

Much love to your mom for being the reasonable parent

I hope at least writing this out is cathartic

Grimlyn posted...

I fully understand that yeah there's a whole massive heap of shit he's under with gbro - and while it is also self-inflicted because of the way he insists on protecting gbro who's clearly beyond off the deep end, that emotional turmoil is still going to have gdad on the complete edge of his rope. I get that, 100%, but also the fact that it's still incredibly abusive to me and I don't deserve that

Understanding can't always mean acceptance or forgiveness.

At the end of the day you sometimes have to protect yourself, especially if the other person refuses to help themselves.

You did the best you could in a shitty situation.

Glad to hear your dad is getting some help from a psychologist at least.

Hope you're okay lately

safest part for me is that gdad isn't telling gbro why we fought, so in gbro's incredible mind I left because of gdad (partially true, but uh it's because of gdad delusions over gbro, denying the inhospitable environment created)

but yeah yesterday psychologist - gdad took gbro, then after their appointment was actually another one for me gmom and gmoms partner

... unfortunately it didn't really do much, I really struggled to get a word in and when I did I'd quickly be interrupted without finishing, so I never even got to finish the story of how I ultimately left or really much of my experience actually in the apartment with gbro for these days we've had despite trying and getting interrupted about 1 story 4 or 5 times. since gdad/gbro's appointment also went long we unfortunately couldn't get much more extension

kind of crucial input but tbf gmom had a lot of threatening messages to go over even if there was a lot of hypertalk looping around. big shock to the psychologist to see all that stuff even just after just having an hour+ with him so I guess he's managed to hide his power level enough, apparently being very vague of his actions.

got to the kind of rewind ending where gmom comes out of it back to being hopeful for a bit but not actually addressing the severity of what's going on and what to do about it, but hey another day passes and she's already back to getting more threatening messages so we're back to square one

can't keep booking this many separate appointments as a family so next week is just gbro/gdad only, at least that means the psychologist is more armed with examples of what gbro is specifically doing - although like I said I haven't really been able to state much of my perspective living there. like I said though right now I'm not an enemy, it's known that both gdad & gbro still WANT to have me back contrasted to the focus gmom has as a pure vendetta target. I would honestly LIKE to attend an appointment with them both so I could get a safe opportunity to speak but it's something that would have to be planned out where I'm only in their presence with the doctor around and I can leave the way I came. obviously not in the cards while gbro is still deranged enough to be texting gmom threats though.

welp, release conditions officially broken which is what gdad's been terrified of happening since signing on for the $5k bail

gdad's terrified to the point he's getting a hotel for himself to protect his own safety now

tomorrow should be a big aftermath day

Protect his safety for what? As in release conditions broken so gbro is back in jail and gdad isn't paying this time and he's afraid of repercussions?

Well maybe gbro throwing gdad's $5k away will be enough of a wake up call going forward.

pretty much. the time I left like I said there was a big fight between the two when gbro said hes going to toronto and gdad reminded him not to break curfew, which gbro then responded violently, justifying his abuse saying gdad threatened him just by noting said curfew

so from what I know gdad just had that conversation again, albeit from text as gbro already left, where gdad reminds of curfew again and gbro says he doesnt give a fuck hes not coming back tonight

dont have too much to go on but gdad was on the phone with gsis and she said he was clearly shaking in fear, the camera wasnt staidy and he video called from darkness

sent me a text about it, not much info, but i just responded I love you I hope you keep safe

apparently gbro did a ruse of asking for gdads keys to use the gym downstairs... and thats when he just left, now having gdads key and fob for the building (I dont know if he also still has my set of keys gbro had when I left). gdad feels dumb for being fooled by it since he also got a shower earlier and thats usually what he does when he goes to toronto

isn't the psychologist legally obligated to report when a patient poses a clear threat to themselves or others? it feels like we are seeing one of those 'he repeatedly threatened to kill every member of his family for years, and authorities did nothing about it' news stories unfolding in real time.

Oh. Really sorry to hear all this. I don't even know what to say except that maybe if gbro gets locked up it would be better for everyone involved in the long run.

alright i'mma go in a few more details I avoided since tbh I do consider the possibility of gbro remembering this place exists. yeah I've already said a lot in the first place like for literally years that hasn't been noticed - but last night's update is really a massive deal that if gbro found out he would absolutely go nuts beyond anything we've seen yet

so last night's update is: gdad actually reported to the police that gbro broke his release conditions. that's why he was extra terrified last night because if gbro finds that part out there's really no telling how far he would take out his vengeance on gdad for, well, being a "traitor rat" as gbro has been muttering about for weeks now

last night he even swung by here because cops were asking for pictures of the text he sent as well as the pages of the bail conditions and gdad doesn't know how to take phone screenshots so he needed my help

so that part is all submitted and it cannot be taken back which feels pretty cemented..... however, gdad is still gradually doing that signature mind reset I've been talking about. even while screenshotting the texts gdad was very straight with me to only screenshot the text from that night where gbro told dad he's going to break bail (and telling dad to shut his mouth about it). gdad still wants to protect gbro from the fullest lengths of his actions, telling me that if the police saw the full texts that would all be too much (same thing with mom tbqh, but gdad's a MUCH HIGHER level of protective still)

but whatever like I said that bail can't be taken back, unfortunately the cop who's on the case works night shifts so not gonna hear more until the evening, and in the meantime gdad is stewing over that trademark brain reset - he's emailing me & gsis pictures of gbro as a baby to say oh what a good bye he was, and he's on the phone with gsis just an incredibly painful level of denial repeating my boy my sweet baby boy he doesn't deserve this, he was bullied as a kid, he went through a divorce, he's a good boy who would never do anything to women, he helps women, those teenage girls were hitting on him, he was drunk and vulnerable!! going on about googling supreme court of canada if gbro is really liable if he was drunk and arguing he shouldn't be - meanwhile gsis on the other end of the line, an assault victim herself and it's absolutely eating up at her to hear this shit from her father

also trying to gain sympathy for gbro be inexplicably comparing her high school troubles as "you had your problems too just like he does" which is so fucking insane to compare. yeah she had a rough teen life (because we had a shit upbringing) but she's done NOTHING AT ALL comparable to gbro's violent assaults and horrific abuse against the family that it's such a disgusting insult to compare them and to have her past - AS A TEENAGER, NOT A NEARLY 40 YEAR OLD ADULT - thrown in her face like that when she has actually made an effort to grow up and become the best person she can (keeping in mind she was always very independent, with jobs she paid for her mistakes largely on her own in her own housing)

so yeahhhh gdad's really breaking down, absurd reality breaking denial - but I mean it can't be taken back now that he reported gbro's broken conditions so that's fully up to the police now - of course, there's no guarantee that police take any of this as a particularly high priority especially now if they're on the phone with gdad who's in this mode of oh my poor boy my beautiful baby boyyyy

gdad even text gbro his delusions, telling him he's such a good boy who wouldn't do anything and from gbro's perspective rn he just thinks he's the king of the world thinking that gdad just caved and is letting him do what he wants.... but uh once he finds out police know all hell's about to break loose (again)

MariaTaylor posted...

isn't the psychologist legally obligated to report when a patient poses a clear threat to themselves or others? it feels like we are seeing one of those 'he repeatedly threatened to kill every member of his family for years, and authorities did nothing about it' news stories unfolding in real time.

two issues with this

a) both parents still don't want to share the FULL details of what's going on in fear of tacking on further charges (gmom will say further than gdad but even still)
b) more of an assumption on my part but I feel they have to get that impression from the patient themselves, and at least so far gbro's capable of hiding the well of his hatred when he goes in. typically talks very vague about details, "maybe I went too far" without explaining how far which gives the psychologist the impression that oh hey he's reflecting on his actions! when of course I know better

extending on b a bit there's also the fact our appointment explaining the further details was after gbro & gdad's appointment so the psychologist couldn't press on the fuller details as easily, they'd be more equipped next session I would hope but also we really didn't have enough time to fully get our side out either, like I said, I didn't even get an opportunity to talk much

It should go without saying, but it's obviously cool if you change your mind and want to delete that.

well I do know I can trust the owner of that lfaqs or whatever site

gbro's on his way back, should be about 40 minutes (of course meaning he'll be late for curfew again)

nerves up high for the next hour

just got the call from gdad - gbro is in custody at the next city over, everyone is safe

so yeah I held off an extra detail in that last post again: gbro has been telling gdad he's gonna be home tonight since 6pm, eventually finally settled on that train that arrives 11:30. meanwhile, police have been in communication with gdad asking him for gbros location and not to tell him in advance that they know.

family has been absolutely afraid not quite sure how its going down but you could tell from those details the police were definitely coming in. scared that they might wait for gdad to pick him up and theyd come to the apartment where a scary altercation could've happened but thankfully it didnt come to that and they just caught him at the train station with no incident

gdad just called me with the news, understandably in tears over it but like yeah still in a dismissive fantasy land not addressing the terror gbro has wrought that made this all necessary. instead just crying how "he just wanted to stay at that apartment where he had a place to his own but your mother took him away" and well I know I cant burst that bubble of stupidity without him getting defensive and fighting about it so whatever

Hopefully there will be peace at last for the foreseeable future.

aiming to be ontario's most wanted

take care

hoping this is the safe end of this chapter, gonna have to wait and see the updates on the situation still though. just finished up some group chatting with gmom & gsis about whats up

we know the cops handling this case are night shift, so is gmom at the hospital here. I gave her the cell number of the officer in charge and she might be able to open communcation to get the details. gmom is certainly much better at this stuff than gdad who's full of panicked emotions, like he has never been good in emergencies even before the recent years aging has impacting him

biggest fear is gdad gets offered to be his surety again and accepts... I hope gdad wouldnt be insane enough to accept but I mean hes been talking absolutely crazy denial over everything. if he DID accept there would be a higher bond and further restrictions, on top of the fact gbro would be treating him even WORSE if he knew gdad called this in. but again, gdads thinking has been completely detached from reality

sigh, going to be held for bail til tomorrow which is when it'll be decided to release him or not. again.

terrified if they will offer it again because in gdads state of mind right now gbro is nothing but a poor sweet misunderstood baby boy which obviously feels like he WOULD agree again now matter how utterly brain dead stupid that decision would be

sending all my atheistic prayers that it's not offered, I mean after all this is the third fucking time in barely over a month but who knows. this is also where the problem comes in that the gparents dont want the full extent of gbros terrorism to come out, so that decision will be lacking a lot of context. maybe the officers can attest to gdads state of panic when initially reporting, they did after all have the sense to take him in at the train station to avoid a likely altercation if they picked him up from home

welppppppppppppp

so in these days gsis has been trying to reassure me that okay yeah gdad's been convinced now that yeah gbro can't be out. he's still heavily afraid of gbro in prison so he insists strongly to make sure he is in a hospital instead (as if that's our choice) and he doesn't go to a toronto prison. fucking whatever, so long as gdad's accepted the base fact that gbro has to be in custody the rest isn't in our hands anyways.

yesterday tho like I've been saying gdad has been in a complete fantasy world about gbro being such a good good sweet little boy, a victim of the system, emailing pictures of him as a baby oh no my boy my precious precious boy who wouldn't hurt a fly T_T

and yep, exactly as I suspected, gdad has flipped again. less than 48 hours ago gdad specifically told me to tell gmom to handle it so gbro goes to a hospital, and today i text him to say she's doing exactly that, and gdad is talking about him speaking with the arresting officer about getting him RELEASED today

important to note though this is very much his own fantasy land, here in the world of reality gmom has been engaged with the actual court system in charge and they specifically said he's being taken to court about his options TOMORROW, not today. there isn't even an appointment today, the idea of getting released simply does not exist, the words gdad are saying are pure fiction.

last question I asked is "what do you mean being released, are you going to sign up has his surety again?" and I got no reply. the really depressing part of this for me is how gdad is completely willing to cast me aside as an evil enemy all to protect this violent psychopath who's been terrorizing the family, putting GDAD HIMSELF into a pure panic of fear, but clearly now I'm the bad seed for not following his protective fantasy. I said last night we're all incredibly fortunate that police intervened at the train station instead of the apartment, avoiding a very probably altercation... turns out that really gdad NEEDED that fight to knock some fucking sense and remember what the situation was. like I said the hour leading into the arrest gdad was TERRIFIED of what would happen, but because police intercepted he gets to easily slip back into his fantasy world

now we just have to sit back and pray on the court system to just say no, don't allow another fucking conditional release after he's broken it so many times in this one month and that he shows ZERO interest in complying with it. but if they offer it's looking like gdad is fully prepared to bring hell back to his apartment