Current Events > Former roommate contacted me. Said she has feelings for me.

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And on this episode of "Things That Happened"......

But seriously, a girl I used to room with that I haven't seen or spoken to since late last year contacted me out of the blue, drunk off her ass, saying she always liked me and wanted to be with me but never acted on it since we were roommates and that would've been awkward. I'm not sure how to feel about this. She's now living in Maryland and I'm in NC and wants to fly out and see me or vice versa.

She's fairly attractive and I can't say I never thought about it but I had no idea she felt that way so I never pursued her. But based on our conversation last night, she's got the hots for me bad.

I'm a little torn on this. On one hand, I've never been in a relationship and this would be nice. On the other, it'd be an LDR situation. What should I do?

Xatrion posted...

drunk off her ass

ehhh

I'd hestitate on trusting drunk texts from random old friends.

Drunk

/Bugsbunnynope

All depends how you feel about LDR, so nobody else can answer that for you. Personally, I'm completely fine with it, and am in a nearly 10-year relationship, 5-year marriage that had most of the pre-marriage time spent as LDR (I lived in Hawaii and they lived in France).

If you decide you're open to it, I think you should try communicating about it when she isn't drunk just to make sure she is aware of and still means what she said. I will say the fact that you already have shared a living space before is a benefit; you already have at least some idea of what it would be like.

Since she said it and was drunk tell her if she wants to travel to you then youll give her a place to sit.

Do not go to her.

KiwiTerraRizing posted...

Since she said it and was drunk tell her if she wants to travel to you then youll give her a place to sit.

Do not go to her.

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It's fine to have her come out and visit to see if anything is real. I wouldn't put effort into seeing her until after that

Stay right where you are and keep doing your own thing.

first of all, wait and ask if it still holds up when she's sober