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hockeybabe89 04/29/24 11:59:15 AM #51:	BlueAnnihilator posted... I mean, they can be, but never share anything with them that they can use against you later, no matter how friendly you are. I've seen what happens when work friendships break down. So this would mean that you cannot be friends. You can't consider someone a friend while also being guarded around them so they can't backstab you later. --- https://card.psnprofiles.com/1/NIR_Hockey.png she/her <cite>hockeybabe89 posted [p:980152615] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>BlueAnnihilator posted... </cite><quote>I mean, they can be, but never share anything with them that they can use against you later, no matter how friendly you are. I've seen what happens when work friendships break down.</quote>So this would mean that you cannot be friends. You can't consider someone a friend while also being guarded around them so they can't backstab you later. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
NoxObscuras 04/29/24 11:59:17 AM #52:	It depends on the people. I've definitely had work friends that are basically "out of sight out of mind" when it comes to being my friend. When we're talking in person, they're all smiles and talking about how we should hang out sometime, exchanges numbers and all that. Then when I actually shoot them a text, they're inconsistent and are never down to hang out. I just stop talking to those "friends." But thankfully not everyone is like that. I made a great group of friends through my current job. We get together to hang out every few months and have been doing so consistently since early 2020 (stopped during the height of Covid though). We're trying to set up something to do together in May. --- Steam/Xbox/PSN = NoxObscuras Z490 \| i9-10900K \| EVGA 3080 FTW3 Ultra \| 32GB DDR4 3600 \| 4TB SSD <cite>NoxObscuras posted [p:980152616] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>It depends on the people. I've definitely had work friends that are basically "out of sight out of mind" when it comes to being my friend. When we're talking in person, they're all smiles and talking about how we should hang out sometime, exchanges numbers and all that. Then when I actually shoot them a text, they're inconsistent and are never down to hang out. I just stop talking to those "friends."But thankfully not everyone is like that. I made a great group of friends through my current job. We get together to hang out every few months and have been doing so consistently since early 2020 (stopped during the height of Covid though). We're trying to set up something to do together in May. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CountCorvinus 04/29/24 11:59:47 AM #53:	hockeybabe89 posted... I'm not gullible enough to think everyone who says hi to you is your best friend, but I just can't go through each day assuming everyone will stab me in the back if I no longer benefit them. Maybe Viper is an actual snake. --- "There's no return from darkness. There's no return, I promise." (THEY/THEM) <cite>CountCorvinus posted [p:980152621] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>hockeybabe89 posted... </cite><quote>I'm not gullible enough to think everyone who says hi to you is your best friend, but I just can't go through each day assuming everyone will stab me in the back if I no longer benefit them.</quote>Maybe Viper is an actual snake. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Gamespoht 04/29/24 12:02:57 PM #55:	All my old "work friends" eventually left and got different jobs while my currents co-wokers just do small talk with me but its never anything substantial Shit sucks ass until I get another job, bc it gets mad lonely --- ''No copyright law in the universe is going to stop me''-Sonic The Hedgehog I am Gamespot's Unofficial Mascot....Love Me. <cite>Gamespoht posted [p:980152662] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>All my old "work friends" eventually left and got different jobs while my currents co-wokers just do small talk with me but its never anything substantialShit sucks ass until I get another job, bc it gets mad lonely </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
hockeybabe89 04/29/24 12:05:19 PM #56:	The rule doesn't even really make sense because with our culture, work is the easiest way to meet new people. When and how are adults supposed to meet these "real" friends? --- https://card.psnprofiles.com/1/NIR_Hockey.png she/her <cite>hockeybabe89 posted [p:980152695] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>The rule doesn't even really make sense because with our culture, work is the easiest way to meet new people.When and how are adults supposed to meet these "real" friends? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
KajeI 04/29/24 12:06:11 PM #57:	hockeybabe89 posted... The rule doesn't even really make sense because with our culture, work is the easiest way to meet new people. When and how are adults supposed to meet these "real" friends? Get any vaguely social hobbies? E-dating? Pure blind luck? Sorry, my brain saw "real friends" and for some reason auto completed to "and dating possibilities". --- Look, I can name a few instances in MY life where I tried to reach mutual understanding and i can TELL you, always faster and easier to just kill em. Just is! <cite>KajeI posted [p:980152710] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>hockeybabe89 posted... </cite><quote>The rule doesn't even really make sense because with our culture, work is the easiest way to meet new people.When and how are adults supposed to meet these "real" friends?</quote>Get any vaguely social hobbies?E-dating?Pure blind luck?Sorry, my brain saw "real friends" and for some reason auto completed to "and dating possibilities". </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sheiky-Baby 04/29/24 12:06:38 PM #58:	It's 100% true. --- "Make pain your best friend, and you'll never be alone." <cite>Sheiky-Baby posted [p:980152716] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>It's 100% true. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
R_Jackal 04/29/24 12:07:14 PM #59:	Work friends aren't real friends. Online friends aren't real friends. Raises the question of who is in their books at times. <cite>R_Jackal posted [p:980152727] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>Work friends aren't real friends. Online friends aren't real friends. Raises the question of who is in their books at times.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Villain_S_Fiend 04/29/24 12:14:46 PM #61:	CountCorvinus posted... My online friends know more about me than my meatspace ones. I have one really good online friend that I've known for... holy shit, coming up on two decades. We've been steady confidants for each other over that time, and there have been days when the two of us getting in a game together helped pull us out of some really heavy funk. I would never diminish the value of knowing him by not calling him a real friend. --- The food here is terrible. My steak was so tough it attacked my coffee and the coffee was too weak to defend itself. <cite>Villain_S_Fiend posted [p:980152830] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>CountCorvinus posted... </cite><quote>My online friends know more about me than my meatspace ones.</quote>I have one really good online friend that I've known for... holy shit, coming up on two decades. We've been steady confidants for each other over that time, and there have been days when the two of us getting in a game together helped pull us out of some really heavy funk. I would never diminish the value of knowing him by not calling him a real friend. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cuticrusader09 04/29/24 12:17:21 PM #62:	Work people I consider acquaintances. Except for my husband who I did meet at work and have been married to for 16 years. <cite>Cuticrusader09 posted [p:980152869] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>Work people I consider acquaintances.Except for my husband who I did meet at work and have been married to for 16 years.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DDP886 04/29/24 12:18:15 PM #63:	Yea I agree work people are just acquaintances --- Fo76: Lv 481 \|\| Destiny: Former Raid Sherpa \|\| ESO: Dual Wield Stamina Nightblade <cite>DDP886 posted [p:980152885] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>Yea I agree work people are just acquaintances </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Barber102 04/29/24 12:45:37 PM #65:	hmnut7 posted... A friend you made at work is a real friend. A work colleague who you are friendly with is not necessarily a real friend this. --- Dinosaurs built the pyramids. <cite>Barber102 posted [p:980153331] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>hmnut7 posted... </cite><quote>A friend you made at work is a real friend.A work colleague who you are friendly with is not necessarily a real friend</quote>this. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
gatorsPENSbucs 04/29/24 12:47:02 PM #66:	For the most part, yah. If youre actually hanging out and talking out of work then thats different, but yah for the most part theyre just work friends and nothing more. --- https://imgur.com/ZFt3WwT http://error1355.com/ce/gatorsPENSbucs.html https://i.imgur.com/pqMQZyw.gif <cite>gatorsPENSbucs posted [p:980153350] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>For the most part, yah. If youre actually hanging out and talking out of work then thats different, but yah for the most part theyre just work friends and nothing more. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Solid_Sonic 04/29/24 12:51:38 PM #67:	hmnut7 posted... A friend you made at work is a real friend. A work colleague who you are friendly with is not necessarily a real friend I get that but I feel like the whole "work friends are not real friends" statement is meant to be taken as a black-and-white categorization. Like never expect anything to go beyond "hey, how was your weekend," if it's a coworker saying it sort of thing. As if it's an encouragement to put energy into fostering relationships that aren't tied down to your workplace. I got one of my coworkers a PS3 as a Christmas gift. To me that's a lot more than a simple token gesture of amicability that supposedly comes from being in a workplace. --- Anyone who doesn't agree is part of the problem. <cite>Solid_Sonic posted [p:980153409] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>hmnut7 posted... </cite><quote>A friend you made at work is a real friend.A work colleague who you are friendly with is not necessarily a real friend</quote>I get that but I feel like the whole "work friends are not real friends" statement is meant to be taken as a black-and-white categorization.Like never expect anything to go beyond "hey, how was your weekend," if it's a coworker saying it sort of thing. As if it's an encouragement to put energy into fostering relationships that aren't tied down to your workplace.I got one of my coworkers a PS3 as a Christmas gift. To me that's a lot more than a simple token gesture of amicability that supposedly comes from being in a workplace. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
hockeybabe89 04/29/24 12:54:17 PM #68:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] Not everyone has those. And that seri3e of events still might be triggered by someone you meet at work. --- https://card.psnprofiles.com/1/NIR_Hockey.png she/her <cite>hockeybabe89 posted [p:980153448] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> Not everyone has those. And that seri3e of events still might be triggered by someone you meet at work. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Jiek_Fafn 04/29/24 1:03:46 PM #70:	I've met a lot of folks through work that became real friends. It can make the transition easily enough. Clearly, not everyone I enjoy at work is going to make that jump though. It takes a bit more effort --- I don't believe in belts. There should be no ranking system for toughness. <cite>Jiek_Fafn posted [p:980153556] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>I've met a lot of folks through work that became real friends. It can make the transition easily enough. Clearly, not everyone I enjoy at work is going to make that jump though. It takes a bit more effort </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
pauIie 04/29/24 1:09:23 PM #71:	i mean for the most part sure. but it can happen. some guy temped where i worked in 2011 for just a summer, and he's someone i talk to daily to this day. play games here and there together on pc, and when he's in town we hang out. we're not ride or die, but i'd say we're the next tier below that. i love him and it would deeply sadden me if we stopped being friends. my wife has met some real friends through work as well. some of them i think are ride or die. --- http://i.imgur.com/O5APL.jpg http://www.last.fm/user/jaeganja <cite>pauIie posted [p:980153635] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>i mean for the most part sure. but it can happen. some guy temped where i worked in 2011 for just a summer, and he's someone i talk to daily to this day. play games here and there together on pc, and when he's in town we hang out. we're not ride or die, but i'd say we're the next tier below that. i love him and it would deeply sadden me if we stopped being friends.my wife has met some real friends through work as well. some of them i think are ride or die. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
pinky0926 04/29/24 1:11:33 PM #72:	It's pretty sad if you can't be friends with the people you spend the most time with. --- CE's Resident Scotsman. http://i.imgur.com/ILz2ZbV.jpg <cite>pinky0926 posted [p:980153665] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>It's pretty sad if you can't be friends with the people you spend the most time with. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jaguar34 04/29/24 1:20:03 PM #73:	Definitely true if you are a minority Definitely true if you're in a cut-throat industry Definitely true when it comes to those that manage others Biggest thing is leaking information. Real reasons why you miss work, true motivations, habits and behaviors outside of work. It's true that most people don't face these but if you're a minority at your job you're more scrutinized than others and your bosses use your peers to gather intel on you. If you're a big earner in a cut-throat industry your bosses are always looking to either cut you or pay you as little as possible. If you have superiors in your position being friendly can lead to a lot more obstacles to raises and promotions. Managers have to be friendly people but they're always doing their jobs, even when they aren't at work. I have to be an asshole to management out of respect even when they come from a genuine place. Otherwise they start pushing up on your boundaries. Anyone else feel this way or am I crazy? <cite>Jaguar34 posted [p:980153781] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>Definitely true if you are a minorityDefinitely true if you're in a cut-throat industryDefinitely true when it comes to those that manage othersBiggest thing is leaking information. Real reasons why you miss work, true motivations, habits and behaviors outside of work. It's true that most people don't face these but if you're a minority at your job you're more scrutinized than others and your bosses use your peers to gather intel on you.If you're a big earner in a cut-throat industry your bosses are always looking to either cut you or pay you as little as possible. If you have superiors in your position being friendly can lead to a lot more obstacles to raises and promotions.Managers have to be friendly people but they're always doing their jobs, even when they aren't at work. I have to be an asshole to management out of respect even when they come from a genuine place. Otherwise they start pushing up on your boundaries.Anyone else feel this way or am I crazy?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Ludwig_Von_2 04/29/24 1:25:55 PM #74:	If you were fired / laid off from your job today, would this person reach out to you? And let's assume it was for a reason that still made you likable, not something like you were fired for harassment or anything like that. And let's also throw in there that this person would keep in touch with you over time. Not simply just reach out to get the scoop on why you were let go and then never talk to you again. If you have that, a person who stays your friend after you leave a company, then yes, that is a true friend. If you lose contact after leaving a job, they are just a work friend. --- My luck works best when things are... random. Mat Cauthon from The Dragon Reborn <cite>Ludwig_Von_2 posted [p:980153843] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>If you were fired / laid off from your job today, would this person reach out to you?And let's assume it was for a reason that still made you likable, not something like you were fired for harassment or anything like that.And let's also throw in there that this person would keep in touch with you over time. Not simply just reach out to get the scoop on why you were let go and then never talk to you again.If you have that, a person who stays your friend after you leave a company, then yes, that is a true friend. If you lose contact after leaving a job, they are just a work friend. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MangaBroski 04/29/24 1:34:21 PM #75:	I have at least one person I no longer work with that I still chat with and see at least once a year. I had another, but I think I offended her (not through anything I said directly to her) or shes been having a rough mental time and stepped away from platforms Id contact her on. <cite>MangaBroski posted [p:980153948] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>I have at least one person I no longer work with that I still chat with and see at least once a year. I had another, but I think I offended her (not through anything I said directly to her) or shes been having a rough mental time and stepped away from platforms Id contact her on.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
W_S_C_M 04/29/24 1:34:31 PM #76:	Disagree. I had a lot of friends at work I'd hang out with outside of work. Not so much anymore though --- Peacefully non-compliant/non-conformist <cite>W_S_C_M posted [p:980153954] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>Disagree. I had a lot of friends at work I'd hang out with outside of work.Not so much anymore though </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sheiky-Baby 04/29/24 1:38:09 PM #77:	W_S_C_M posted... Disagree. I had a lot of friends at work I'd hang out with outside of work. Not so much anymore though They weren't real friends than, lol. --- "Make pain your best friend, and you'll never be alone." <cite>Sheiky-Baby posted [p:980153997] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>W_S_C_M posted... </cite><quote>Disagree. I had a lot of friends at work I'd hang out with outside of work.Not so much anymore though</quote>They weren't real friends than, lol. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TheShadowViper 04/29/24 1:41:21 PM #78:	W_S_C_M posted... Disagree. I had a lot of friends at work I'd hang out with outside of work. Not so much anymore though They are still co-workers in that scenario though. Now if you continued to hang out with them after one of you no longer works together, then you would be "real friends". The thing is, people cannot just switch off, it is entirely possible something you say or do will impact your work with that person - and that is what separates them from a real friend. I think too many people erroneously think that someone cannot change roles. Someone can be a "work friend" and then become an actual friend as circumstances change. They are not locked into one role. <cite>TheShadowViper posted [p:980154043] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>W_S_C_M posted... </cite><quote>Disagree. I had a lot of friends at work I'd hang out with outside of work.Not so much anymore though</quote>They are still co-workers in that scenario though. Now if you continued to hang out with them after one of you no longer works together, then you would be "real friends". The thing is, people cannot just switch off, it is entirely possible something you say or do will impact your work with that person - and that is what separates them from a real friend.I think too many people erroneously think that someone cannot change roles. Someone can be a "work friend" and then become an actual friend as circumstances change. They are not locked into one role.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Glob 04/29/24 7:21:26 PM #79:	Jaguar34 posted... Definitely true if you are a minority Definitely true if you're in a cut-throat industry Definitely true when it comes to those that manage others Biggest thing is leaking information. Real reasons why you miss work, true motivations, habits and behaviors outside of work. It's true that most people don't face these but if you're a minority at your job you're more scrutinized than others and your bosses use your peers to gather intel on you. If you're a big earner in a cut-throat industry your bosses are always looking to either cut you or pay you as little as possible. If you have superiors in your position being friendly can lead to a lot more obstacles to raises and promotions. Managers have to be friendly people but they're always doing their jobs, even when they aren't at work. I have to be an asshole to management out of respect even when they come from a genuine place. Otherwise they start pushing up on your boundaries. Anyone else feel this way or am I crazy? I manage people that I sometimes go on holiday with. <cite>Glob posted [p:980159367] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>Jaguar34 posted... </cite><quote>Definitely true if you are a minorityDefinitely true if you're in a cut-throat industryDefinitely true when it comes to those that manage othersBiggest thing is leaking information. Real reasons why you miss work, true motivations, habits and behaviors outside of work. It's true that most people don't face these but if you're a minority at your job you're more scrutinized than others and your bosses use your peers to gather intel on you.If you're a big earner in a cut-throat industry your bosses are always looking to either cut you or pay you as little as possible. If you have superiors in your position being friendly can lead to a lot more obstacles to raises and promotions.Managers have to be friendly people but they're always doing their jobs, even when they aren't at work. I have to be an asshole to management out of respect even when they come from a genuine place. Otherwise they start pushing up on your boundaries.Anyone else feel this way or am I crazy?</quote>I manage people that I sometimes go on holiday with.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
deoxxys 04/29/24 7:23:29 PM #80:	Doe posted... how much you hang out after work. this^ People who really give a shit will hang out with you outside of work hours, because otherwise, they are being paid to be there and you just might happen to be the most interesting person there at the time to keep them entertained. --- twylite sprinkle http://tinyurl.com/jeqyas3 https://tinyurl.com/mgvx7h2 <cite>deoxxys posted [p:980159403] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>Doe posted... </cite><quote>how much you hang out after work.</quote>this^People who really give a shit will hang out with you outside of work hours, because otherwise, they are being paid to be there and you just might happen to be the most interesting person there at the time to keep them entertained. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MrResetti 04/29/24 7:31:35 PM #81:	[LFAQs-redacted-quote] This And I've fucking watched places crumble because people valued their friendships more than their coworkers straight up fucking everyone over by being shit employees <cite>MrResetti posted [p:980159538] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote><cite>[LFAQs-redacted-quote]</cite> ThisAnd I've fucking watched places crumble because people valued their friendships more than their coworkers straight up fucking everyone over by being shit employees </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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hockeybabe89 04/29/24 10:59:07 PM #83:	pinky0926 posted... It's pretty sad if you can't be friends with the people you spend the most time with. I get what most of what people are saying, but I agree that I don't get why it's a hard-and-fast rule for some. Just seems overly jaded. --- https://card.psnprofiles.com/1/NIR_Hockey.png she/her <cite>hockeybabe89 posted [p:980163114] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>pinky0926 posted... </cite><quote>It's pretty sad if you can't be friends with the people you spend the most time with.</quote>I get what most of what people are saying, but I agree that I don't get why it's a hard-and-fast rule for some. Just seems overly jaded. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ScionTC_07 04/29/24 11:10:17 PM #84:	from my experience a lot of the time, that is true They are only actually your friends if they talk to you outside of work and do things with you. --- Reppin Daly City 650 breeeeh! Not changing this sig till I get a ghetto Asian gf (5-25-13) <cite>ScionTC_07 posted [p:980163264] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>from my experience a lot of the time, that is trueThey are only actually your friends if they talk to you outside of work and do things with you. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
tripleh213 04/30/24 8:49:43 AM #85:	Doe posted... Depends on the workplace and if & how much you hang out after work. --- Bucks World Champions 2021 PS4 looks great <cite>tripleh213 posted [p:980167442] in "Work frie... [t:80758352]...</cite> <quote>Doe posted... </cite><quote>Depends on the workplace and if & how much you hang out after work.</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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